95% of Your Beliefs Are Blocking Your Spiritual Awakening

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What if I told you that you have been running on a script?

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You wrote when you were 9 years old.

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Not metaphorically, like literally, the operating system currently in charge of your relationships,

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your career, your parking lot strategy, 9-year-old you.

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The one who thought lunchables were a complete meal and cried at commercials.

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Well, I guess today says that 95% of what's playing in your subconscious right now isn't even yours.

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It's a hand-me-down belief system from a third grade teacher or an ex or even your mother-in-law.

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And here's the part that broke my brain a little.

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She says, "The reason you can't hear the universe talking back to you isn't because it went quiet,

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it's because you keep telling it exactly what you don't want, and it is a very, very good listener."

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You are personally implicated here because apparently it's going to be impossible to find a parking space is basically a prayer.

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So if any part of you suspects that the life you're living might be someone else's rough draft, stick around.

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'Cause today we are going to hand you the pen.

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My name is Will and I'm Karen.

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And unlike Mulder and Scully, both want to believe.

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So we've embarked on a journey of discovery.

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We've talked to people deeply entrenched in the spiritual and metaphysical world.

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We've thrown ourselves into weird and wonderful experiences.

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I even joined a covenant with you.

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And wait, you joined a covenant?

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Yup, all in the interest of finding something that will prove that there's something beyond this physical...

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Three-dimensional world we all live in.

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Now let's get on with the show.

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Hey there, I'm Will.

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And I'm Karen.

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Welcome back to the skepticmanivision as a show that takes spirituality seriously

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enough to ask the dumb questions that nobody else will.

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You're welcome.

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I thought there were no dumb questions.

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Probably not.

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But we're still asking many, right?

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Karen, I want you to think about the last time that you tried to change someone.

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A partner, a family member, a co-worker, how do you go for you?

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Well, like you're still here, so it went pretty well.

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I guess today has a pretty uncomfortable theory about that.

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She says you, you have been so busy trying to edit everyone else's story that you forgot

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you're holding the pen to your own and not in a bumper sticker kind of way.

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She means literally like your thoughts, your words, the energy you're dragging into every

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room, they're actively writing the script of your life right now in real time,

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whether you are paying attention or not.

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Here's a part that got me though.

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She says most of us aren't even living our own story.

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We're living a rough draft that we wrote when we were nine years old and we never went

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back to revise it.

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So if you've ever felt like your life is happening to you instead of by you and you're

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ready to stop being a background character in your own existence, boy, do we have the

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perfect person for you today.

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Welcome to the show Brenda Lee Matosh.

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How you doing today?

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I'm doing great.

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Thank you for having me.

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It's a pleasure to have you on the show especially because I may or may not be I can either

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confirm or deny that I'm one of those nine year olds who wrote the story never went back

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to it.

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So I'm looking forward to writing my own story.

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See now I wrote the story but it veered off into a different path and then the end result

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is kind of like yours, you know, but I became a mother so then you kind of become invisible.

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So we have two different stories that kind of have a similar situation.

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Can you help us?

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Yes, please.

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Yeah, so I mean, basically we're writing our script every moment of every day.

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The most of the population is just doing it unconsciously and I'm here to help bring some

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awareness to the unconscious patterns, thoughts, words and really emotions that are happening

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within you and all of that within you is surrounding you every day to come back to see yourself.

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That is profound.

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What if you don't like what you see when you look at it and you see it?

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Yeah, so part of the journey of the beautiful soul who is a human evolutionary journey is to

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evolve into loving and liking every single part of your journey.

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And so if you don't like what you see then there is a belief system and narrative plane,

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a program that probably doesn't even belong to you that your mind is feeding you something

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about yourself that you don't like and it's not true.

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It never was and nor it can be because the divine light that you are is perfect in every

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single moment.

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It can't get it wrong because it's just an inexperience.

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You talked about when you kind of look in the mirror and you don't see yourself or you

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have them for a while.

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What if you don't even think to look in the mirror?

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I think that's what's happened with me.

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So much time has gone by and I even think about it anymore.

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I just follow that, continue with that hamster wheel.

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Yeah, so I find, so I used to be like that, right?

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I didn't want to look in the mirror, but I found that the entire world is a mirror of us.

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Imagine if you had a thought of I'm XYZ and you're in your house alone for five years

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and you never left the house and you never spoke to anybody.

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You wouldn't see yourself unless you actually looked in a mirror, but that wouldn't tell

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you anything.

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It wouldn't give you feedback, right?

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The only feedback that you would get by looking in a mirror in your bathroom is what's

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programmed in your mind in your belief system, how you talk about yourself and it's usually

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a self-critic, right?

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But if you never left your house for five years, you'd have zero feedback.

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The only way you get feedback to see who you are is to go out into the world.

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And when you stop looking out at everybody with judgment, even when it's joking and you

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start seeing what are they showing me and me, you can absolutely see that everybody is

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a mirror reflection of you helping you get to where you're going.

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Even if they look stuck to you, take the gift and let them be who they are, right?

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So the very question that you don't want to look in the mirror is why wouldn't you want

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to look in the mirror?

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Like we're fascinating beings.

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We're incredible.

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Look at our systems, how we function and move through life.

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Why wouldn't you want to just stare at yourself and go, I live on planet Earth.

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It's a little cookie down here, but I'm doing great.

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Well, some of us are more than others in terms of like, we feel that mirror a little bit

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more than others, right?

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Well, no, I'm even thinking like even past that, like it's not that you don't want to,

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you just don't think about it.

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It just doesn't even occur to you to look in the mirror.

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I think that's kind of...

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Living life unconsciously kind of.

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Yeah, you're just doing and doing it and you know, the next thing and you're just not

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even thinking about it.

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Yeah, I mean, the first step to understanding who you are, know thyself is to look in the

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mirror and look at your body and start questioning your mind and hear your voice and what am I

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saying all day?

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And do I show up the way I say?

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Do I...

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Am I embodiment of how I live?

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Is there a glitch in my own system?

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But yeah, it always starts with us and has to because we're here to have self-awareness.

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The only way we come back to the whole of the creation, the light that's in everything,

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all that is there will be is to come back to who we are and then we light the path for

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the rest of them to know it's okay, right?

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Some of us are way showers and light workers that go ahead and do the work, right?

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Yes.

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However, in the world these days, it's a lot harder to maintain that way shower light

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worker mentality because we are constantly being bombarded by really stupid crap that people

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are doing out there.

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Am I stupid?

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I mean, obviously things that are not in the best interest of all humanity.

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Unkindness, hate, fear-based, so...

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And divisive.

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So when you're faced with things like this, I know you said that it's a mirror to us, right?

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We're a reflection of us that we see in others.

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How is that possible?

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If we see others being so unkind and yet I mean, I hope I'm not unkind like that, so it's

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hard for me to write my head around that.

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First of all, you said it's hard to be a light worker, way shower, do the work.

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Right there you wrote your script that it's going to be hard.

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See as you speak it, you are the creator and if you're the creator and you believe it,

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then everything you speak creates the next clip in your reality because everything's

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coming from within for you to see yourself, right?

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And so that's the number one thing that I would make sure that I don't say that life

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is hard and this is hard and that is hard because you never claim what you don't want.

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You don't speak into existence what you don't want.

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That's how much power you have, honestly.

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But I go around telling myself, "I'm the best tennis player ever and it never happens."

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Because you don't believe it.

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Or have a racket.

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Or a tennis ball.

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Be control every scene of our script.

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And look, you can't just say, "I'm going to dismantle my mind and I'm going to listen to

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my words and I'm going to open my heart and I'm going to take action in one day."

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It doesn't work that way, right?

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You have to select the one that's kind of your biggest obstacle.

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What are you struggling with the most?

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Are you struggling with self-confidence?

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Are you struggling with how I speak to myself?

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Are you struggling with how you react to the world?

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You have to pick one.

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And then you start working with it.

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And once you start working with it, you'll start to see the proof that you're in the same

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house, but inside of you shift it and when you go out, everything around you shifts.

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People respond to you differently.

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They don't know, "Did you change your hair?

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Do you have new makeup?

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Did you lose weight?"

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They don't know what it is.

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It's an energetic shift of how you now are showing up.

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This happens over time, little by little and little by little becomes a lot.

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Also by working on it, do you mean just be aware of the things that you're saying and things

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like that?

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I'm assuming it's much more to it than just that, you know?

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Well, yeah, I mean, you definitely need to be impeccable with your word.

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You must be.

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You need to hear yourself speak.

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I talk out loud and when I was dismantling my own egoic program that I didn't agree

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with anymore, that didn't make sense to me, that had been with me for 49 years and

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I just didn't believe it.

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I started questioning everything.

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It couldn't answer me because the program can only answer what's been deposited.

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If I want to go over here and haven't been there before, it just puts up fear but it has

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no validity for that fear.

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I question everything.

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Once you start realizing that most of the things that are playing 95% in the background

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and you're subconscious that are creating your reality aren't even yours.

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Their belief systems that were handed down to you by a schoolteacher or a friend or an

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old boyfriend or their family or a mother-in-law, whoever it is, right?

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Your family.

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You start to just go, "Oh, well, that got me to hear but that's not going to serve me with

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the desires that I have."

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And you just start testing it.

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I promise you it works.

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But first you got to dismantle.

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It's like you got to get the robber breaking in the house in the act.

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You got to hear yourself say it.

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So many times that you go, "I can't believe I keep saying that.

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That's not my thought in word.

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Why am I doing it?"

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I want to get back to the question that you had asked about the reflections.

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And I was thinking about that the same too.

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If you consider yourself, or you do kind gestures and you talk about love and that's what

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you put out, but you see this toxicity and people being unkind, how do you see that reflection

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and take that as a reflection of you?

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How do you work with that?

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You know, don't take anything literal and nothing is as it seems.

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These are the two rules that you need to start practicing.

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And so when you see things out in the world that aren't you, that aren't aligned with you,

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that are just sad, darkness, evil, whatever your word is, it's contrast to who you are.

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You have to know that.

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The mere is, why are you attaching yourself to something that you don't like?

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Why are you in the news?

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Why are you scrolling?

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Not only why are you scrolling and watching it, but you're delivering it to somebody else

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who didn't scroll and see it.

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That adds to the collective narrative that's playing in that script, which is darkness or

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low vibration or negative vibration.

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In that moment and you'll play and go back and forth, I mean, it's a duality planet.

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You wouldn't even know that you were in the light unless you saw somebody in the dark.

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You wouldn't even know what it felt like to be happy unless you had a sad day.

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This is the human experience.

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The soul wants to experience everything that it can.

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It just doesn't want to hang onto it too long.

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It wants to receive the experience, find an awareness of itself in that experience and

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then move on.

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It wants to be in motion as energy is, but people get stuck and then they play victim and

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they blame.

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And then if you're blaming the government for everything they're doing, but you're not

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changing things inside your four walls and inside your psyche, then you're adding to that collective

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narrative.

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It's not tit for tat.

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There's like two frequencies, love and fear, which one are you vibrating in every day?

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I love that.

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Yeah, I do too.

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For us, we can understand that and there's things that we can actively do, but I'm thinking

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we have a daughter in high school and she's a freshman in high school.

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And she has been in private school and like these very small environments that are very

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well controlled, teachers very involved.

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And so now she's in this huge public school with just so many kids, it's hard.

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That was in some kids.

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Thousands of kids.

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And so she comes home not every day, but almost every day of the day saying, oh my gosh,

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mom, you should have heard the way this person said to this person or she tells me these

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stories of things that she sees.

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How do we teach her at a young age?

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Because now's when she really needs to know to work with that and not because she's not

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talking about people being mean to her.

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But she's seeing it.

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Like, she wouldn't have been missing it.

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So what does she do with that?

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So she has a, is stupe awareness.

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I had it too, right?

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And so I would advise her to observe, not absorb.

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If she can learn to observe what she's seeing with all of these kids, which could be quite

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overwhelming, I'm sure in high school, I wouldn't go back for anything.

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Did it?

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Yeah, if she could just learn to observe the behavior, observe what's going on.

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And in that moment, rather than absorbing the story and coming home and giving it to you,

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determine in that moment, would this hurt me or help me?

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Would this group of girls be a good fit for me or not?

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Are they showing me contrast or is there a resonance there?

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Am I attracted to that energy or am I just observing it as a choice in the candy store

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that I don't want to pick?

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The other thing is that she wants to help the victim.

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Always.

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She wants to pull them up and she will go up and she'll go over here.

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I want to show you something and change the whole topic.

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Yes, just see if you're mentality.

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Yeah, but that's going to be really tough on her, too.

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Yeah.

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Well, yeah, so I was very empathic and still am.

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And in school, I wanted to rescue and help and fix and save.

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And I felt everybody's sadness and I fought for the underdog and I was always doing that.

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And that's a beautiful thing, her heart.

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She's in her heart and that's really sweet.

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That you've got to teach her that she's not the savior of everybody else.

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And it's okay for her to feel and want to help because this is such a beautiful quality

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that we get to experience.

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But just make sure that she doesn't ever give away herself.

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Don't empty your own cup to fill another.

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Make sure that she's aware.

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Am I saving them because I feel sorry for them or am I lacking something in myself?

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Yeah.

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As a rescuer, it takes on a lot of momentum at this age and you don't want her to fall into

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the hamster wheel on that because it's hard.

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It took me 49 years to get off the hamster wheel doing that.

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And I would say actually, there's a lot of people right now who are way older than our daughter,

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who are in that as an adult, going through the motion.

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So if this resonates with you, whether you're a kid or a grown up, it's very relevant to

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you, Karen.

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Bus, me, Karen.

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Oh, oh, oh, yeah.

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There's a teenager in my school.

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Yeah, just saying, right?

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Yeah.

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Oh, great.

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And she's just like me.

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Jackie for her daughter.

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That's okay.

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We can use your daughter as a typical for the whole class.

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Yeah, I'm pretty bad, but she is too.

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I mean, not bad, you know.

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The phrase comes to mind, chip off the old block or apple for the tree, I don't know, but

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it's great advice.

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And close to what we have already told her, but the phrasing that you used, observe, don't

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absorb that is, I'm going to like write it somewhere so she sees it everywhere all the

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time.

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That's fantastic.

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Yeah.

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And is this hurting me or helping me?

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If she came home and told you something, just say, okay, you just told me that how does

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that make you feel inside?

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Oh, it made me feel icky.

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Okay, well, don't attach yourself to things that feel icky.

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I tell people, just don't deliver me that news.

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When people don't give me something icky, I'm like, if I want the news, I'll watch it.

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I don't need you to deliver that to me.

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I turn the news off 10 years ago.

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Have no idea what's going on in the world.

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It's a really wonderful place to be, right?

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And people deliver me what I need to know.

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Well, I think that the kitten was actually rescued from the tree.

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And so what do you say to people that say that this sounds dangerously close to just thinking

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positive thoughts?

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Yeah.

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So, you know, I'm not naive and it took me a long time to get to the point.

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But yeah, positivity has a lot to do with it in a sense, but I'm talking truth.

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And my truth won't look like your truth.

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Only you know.

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But if you have a program playing in the background on repeat, which is patterns and habits, it's

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kind of like when you get in your car, you don't think, how am I going to start the car

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and drive?

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You're just on autopilot all day.

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You kind of mentioned that earlier, right?

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That you don't have time to look in the mirror.

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Look, life is really busy.

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And that's okay.

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It's supposed to be for some, but the whisper inside, it's a soft sound that only you can hear

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and feel.

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And if you're not making space for it throughout the day, you probably won't hear it

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for a long time.

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And so it's not about being positive.

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Certainly I choose to live a positive life in the light where I see hope for humanity as

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a collective, but I'm aware that there's stuff out there and I keep myself informed and

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protected, but I just don't give it my energy because whatever you put your energy to, it just

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amplifies it.

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That's how powerful you are.

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And I know there's enough people in front of the TV at 6 p.m. every night worrying about

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what's going on in the world, even though it's been reported the same thing for 14 days in

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a row.

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I just don't need to hear things more than two minutes and go, okay, I see what's going

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on.

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I'm good.

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It's not positive.

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It's living from a place of, do you want to be in denial or do you want to know what's

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going on?

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Yeah, I'm a headline reader.

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That's all I need.

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I'm keep myself, what's going on in the world by reading the headline, but I don't got

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diving any further than that is too much for me.

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Anyway, that is a great way to live.

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We often talked about how we are here for a reason.

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We're here to experience everything.

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We're in a duality planet.

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The whole thing, we need to have the good with the bad at everything.

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It's part of the experience for us.

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However, how would you suggest with the world going as fast as it's going to be?

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We are moving a million miles an hour.

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How would you suggest being able to monitor yourself all the time?

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How do you put your feet on the ground and remember to not think that bad thought?

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All the time.

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First, you have to make a commitment to yourself that you really want it because if you don't

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really want it, the program, the mind wins because the mind thinks it's protecting you

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from something out there that's unknown and I run towards the unknown and change.

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My mind cannot stop me at this point, right?

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And so when you commit to yourself, you just start with one thing and you can just ask

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your mind, tell me the one thought that you want me to hear all the time.

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You can start working with it and speaking out loud and when you hear something that's

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not yours, you have to catch yourself when you hear it or you say it.

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If you took 20 minutes at the beginning of every day, how do I start my day and you were

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in silent and you just listen to your thoughts, you would be like, why would I even think

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that?

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Because that's plain in the background.

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So once you start doing that work, you question it, where's that thought coming from?

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How do I know that?

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Tell me what I don't know.

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There's no answer because your mind won't tell you what you don't know.

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There's techniques to use to start doing it and once you do the work, you'll want to do

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it because you'll catch yourself saying stuff and thinking stuff all day that don't belong

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to you and it'll become a really fun game.

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It really will, I did it.

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The game of risk.

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So how do you, when you're talking about your soul and then the things that you say to

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yourself, is it your soul that you have to change how it talks to you or is it your

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ego and if it's your ego, how do you get the two of them on the same channel?

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So the soul is starting to remember.

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This is what we're seeing in the great awakening here, huh?

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The soul inside that it's starting to remember.

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We're in the grand illusion, right?

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Maya, the grand illusion.

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And so the mind has power in the illusion of the matrix because it's been programmed

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and it's just like a computer, right?

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It's just running on autopilot.

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The soul starts to remember that I have a little more power than that.

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When you start questioning everything and dismantling this darn egoic program, you have an intellectual

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mind that is so brilliant and so beautiful.

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And what happens is the heart starts, there's a heart coherence that happens.

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The heart already has all the codes of what you should be doing in life.

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It already knows the way.

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There's so many trajectories that could get you to that final point.

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You can't make a wrong turn.

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You're going to know matter what you do and what you go through.

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You're going to get to that end point that the soul came here for the evolutionary experience.

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And so the soul is not attached to good, bad, right, or wrong.

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When the soul starts remembering, it will give you pulls and nudges.

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And it's always from love.

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It's never, ever from criticism.

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The criticism is a programmed mind trying to thinking that it's protecting you from

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this unsafe place to go in the unknown and the void and try something new.

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And you've got to break down that program and question everything and say, that's not my

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thought.

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Nope.

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I'm not afraid to do that.

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You can't tell me what to do.

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I haven't done it yet.

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How do you know the outcome?

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We're not in the future.

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You can't go back to the past and you cannot jump into the future in the present moment

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right here is when you make all the changes and you make changes through self-awareness.

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That's the only way you get there.

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You talk about the heart-mind coherence.

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Is that something that you can feel in your body?

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Oh, yeah.

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So how does that feel?

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What does that feel like exactly?

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We need to take a quick pause, but we'll be right back right into these messages.

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And now back to the show.

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491
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It feels incredible and it's safe and it's unlimited and there's zero fear.

492
00:27:50,240 --> 00:27:55,000
You're just going to live and be joyful and it happens inside and once you touch it, you

493
00:27:55,000 --> 00:27:56,000
don't give it up.

494
00:27:56,000 --> 00:27:57,600
You don't give it up to anybody.

495
00:27:57,600 --> 00:28:01,760
And so there's a process that happens with these practices that I offer.

496
00:28:01,760 --> 00:28:05,640
A lot of people have practices or just tools in your toolbox.

497
00:28:05,640 --> 00:28:10,680
Everybody will be drawn to somebody who resonates with them and it's divine timing and when

498
00:28:10,680 --> 00:28:18,680
you do that work, you'll just, for me, I was laying in bed and I heard my mind say something

499
00:28:18,680 --> 00:28:23,920
that was kind of like startling to me, that my mind, because I had been doing so much work

500
00:28:23,920 --> 00:28:28,960
and I heard my heart say, no, no, dear, it's okay.

501
00:28:28,960 --> 00:28:32,960
And then I heard my mind surrender and go, oh my gosh, you're totally right.

502
00:28:32,960 --> 00:28:39,280
And I heard this conversation inside and I was like, I just reached heart, my coherence.

503
00:28:39,280 --> 00:28:44,480
It was like so magical because I had read about it and I was doing the work and it just

504
00:28:44,480 --> 00:28:47,800
happened because everything's happening inside.

505
00:28:47,800 --> 00:28:54,240
You know, I think I felt that the other day, but it turned out it was just in digestion.

506
00:28:54,240 --> 00:28:59,280
Hey, you know, however your heart is trying to talk to you, it might be, it might be a little

507
00:28:59,280 --> 00:29:00,280
kind of acid reflux.

508
00:29:00,280 --> 00:29:02,800
I mean, hey, it's in the mean.

509
00:29:02,800 --> 00:29:04,320
Knock, knock, knock, wake up.

510
00:29:04,320 --> 00:29:10,200
That may or may not be why Kerry tells around, you know, I'm just saying, but you also talk

511
00:29:10,200 --> 00:29:13,080
about the quantum field always communicating with us.

512
00:29:13,080 --> 00:29:16,920
You say that it's always talking to us, always sending us messages.

513
00:29:16,920 --> 00:29:18,400
Why can't I hear it?

514
00:29:18,400 --> 00:29:23,040
Yeah, so it's not sending you messages.

515
00:29:23,040 --> 00:29:26,520
It's responding to everything you're putting out.

516
00:29:26,520 --> 00:29:31,080
So if you're not holding space to listen to what you're saying, how can you hear what

517
00:29:31,080 --> 00:29:33,360
the quantum field is saying, right?

518
00:29:33,360 --> 00:29:39,440
If you're tuned into the outer world, which is all the noise in the chaos and the TV and

519
00:29:39,440 --> 00:29:43,720
the scrolling and the news and the headlines and all that, then that's all you can hear

520
00:29:43,720 --> 00:29:46,880
because what you put your attention to, you get more.

521
00:29:46,880 --> 00:29:50,880
By the way, the quantum field is created by all of us.

522
00:29:50,880 --> 00:29:54,280
It's designed to work of our free will.

523
00:29:54,280 --> 00:29:55,280
It's neutral.

524
00:29:55,280 --> 00:29:57,160
It's not mad at anybody.

525
00:29:57,160 --> 00:29:59,480
It gives you what you put out.

526
00:29:59,480 --> 00:30:02,200
The minute you make a shift, you'll test it.

527
00:30:02,200 --> 00:30:03,440
You'll see the proof.

528
00:30:03,440 --> 00:30:05,320
It has to appear.

529
00:30:05,320 --> 00:30:10,280
Whatever you decide to put your attention to that's new, it will appear and show it to

530
00:30:10,280 --> 00:30:11,280
you.

531
00:30:11,280 --> 00:30:14,480
So it's moving in its motion around us at all times.

532
00:30:14,480 --> 00:30:16,200
It never turns off.

533
00:30:16,200 --> 00:30:18,400
It's absolutely happening in real time.

534
00:30:18,400 --> 00:30:19,400
Well, it's interesting.

535
00:30:19,400 --> 00:30:23,080
You mentioned that you say that we created, but I was always on the impression that quantum

536
00:30:23,080 --> 00:30:27,320
field was everything and we were just a part of it.

537
00:30:27,320 --> 00:30:30,920
Well we come from the one creation of all.

538
00:30:30,920 --> 00:30:36,320
So the way I view life is we are the spark of creation itself.

539
00:30:36,320 --> 00:30:40,080
Some people call it God, source, creator, the divine.

540
00:30:40,080 --> 00:30:43,040
It doesn't matter what it's called and label.

541
00:30:43,040 --> 00:30:47,920
This is what separates us, is all these labels and words and I call it this in my religion

542
00:30:47,920 --> 00:30:49,440
and my belief system.

543
00:30:49,440 --> 00:30:54,600
And all of that is perfect for the person that wants to have that play, that script, right?

544
00:30:54,600 --> 00:31:00,880
But I just work with how I see everything for myself and then obviously I'm in service

545
00:31:00,880 --> 00:31:06,440
to share this wisdom with all those that are open to receive it.

546
00:31:06,440 --> 00:31:08,960
Nobody has to believe anything I say.

547
00:31:08,960 --> 00:31:11,040
I say, test it.

548
00:31:11,040 --> 00:31:15,320
But if you're not dismantling your program, you're not going to see a lot of results because

549
00:31:15,320 --> 00:31:16,320
this has power.

550
00:31:16,320 --> 00:31:18,520
Yeah, no, for sure.

551
00:31:18,520 --> 00:31:21,440
So someone wants to listen to the quantum field.

552
00:31:21,440 --> 00:31:23,440
What should we be looking for?

553
00:31:23,440 --> 00:31:31,320
So the quantum field is every thought, every feel, your emotions and everything you speak.

554
00:31:31,320 --> 00:31:32,320
You could test it.

555
00:31:32,320 --> 00:31:35,320
You know, a lot of people test it with, I want front row parking.

556
00:31:35,320 --> 00:31:36,320
That's a good one.

557
00:31:36,320 --> 00:31:39,680
And then I tell people, you got to graduate front row parking.

558
00:31:39,680 --> 00:31:43,240
See at work a few times, you got to step it up and ask for something new.

559
00:31:43,240 --> 00:31:45,760
How many times do you need to get front row parking, right?

560
00:31:45,760 --> 00:31:47,920
We can get front row parking.

561
00:31:47,920 --> 00:31:50,520
I've been doing it wrong all along.

562
00:31:50,520 --> 00:31:53,520
Because you're thinking, I don't want the worst parking spot and it's just hearing the

563
00:31:53,520 --> 00:31:54,520
worst parking spot.

564
00:31:54,520 --> 00:31:56,200
Yeah, I mean, she's absolutely right.

565
00:31:56,200 --> 00:32:00,520
I have people say all the time, oh, you know, I said this and then I had the worst day

566
00:32:00,520 --> 00:32:05,480
and I'm like, well, according to the universe, you had a perfect day because you created

567
00:32:05,480 --> 00:32:07,800
it and you get what you want.

568
00:32:07,800 --> 00:32:08,800
Right.

569
00:32:08,800 --> 00:32:09,800
It's just how it works.

570
00:32:09,800 --> 00:32:10,800
Right.

571
00:32:10,800 --> 00:32:11,800
But you got to test it.

572
00:32:11,800 --> 00:32:15,480
Is it a belief system like you believe you're going to get front row parking?

573
00:32:15,480 --> 00:32:16,480
Yeah.

574
00:32:16,480 --> 00:32:17,480
So I know.

575
00:32:17,480 --> 00:32:18,880
Oh, so it's annoying.

576
00:32:18,880 --> 00:32:20,560
I know now, right?

577
00:32:20,560 --> 00:32:24,360
But you start with a little bit of curiosity outside your comfort zone.

578
00:32:24,360 --> 00:32:29,880
Be a little curious that you don't understand anything that person saying, but they said one

579
00:32:29,880 --> 00:32:34,000
little thing that you're going, hmm, hmm, hmm, a little curious.

580
00:32:34,000 --> 00:32:37,320
With that curiosity, you start asking questions.

581
00:32:37,320 --> 00:32:40,720
In those questions, you start seeing a little bit of results.

582
00:32:40,720 --> 00:32:43,240
That changes your belief system.

583
00:32:43,240 --> 00:32:47,440
Once it's happened a few times, you're in the knowing, now you're claiming.

584
00:32:47,440 --> 00:32:49,920
You're living from a space of claiming.

585
00:32:49,920 --> 00:32:52,120
And yesterday, we got front row parking.

586
00:32:52,120 --> 00:32:53,120
Thank you very much.

587
00:32:53,120 --> 00:32:55,440
I went to go pick up and you're like, it's going to be packed like you never know.

588
00:32:55,440 --> 00:32:56,440
It's a Tuesday.

589
00:32:56,440 --> 00:32:57,440
There's not a people there.

590
00:32:57,440 --> 00:32:58,440
We're going to get a spot on the street.

591
00:32:58,440 --> 00:32:59,440
Okay.

592
00:32:59,440 --> 00:33:02,840
Which brings me up to another point on that whole thing is you claim to you claim to

593
00:33:02,840 --> 00:33:03,840
it.

594
00:33:03,840 --> 00:33:04,840
She did, but I said the complete opposite.

595
00:33:04,840 --> 00:33:05,840
There's no way.

596
00:33:05,840 --> 00:33:06,840
Right.

597
00:33:06,840 --> 00:33:07,840
So obviously she won.

598
00:33:07,840 --> 00:33:10,440
So she speaks to the quantum field way better than me.

599
00:33:10,440 --> 00:33:16,440
But the question is, when you have two opposing willingnesses or whatever, how does the

600
00:33:16,440 --> 00:33:18,080
quantum field know what to give them?

601
00:33:18,080 --> 00:33:19,080
Yeah.

602
00:33:19,080 --> 00:33:20,080
So the quantum field is this.

603
00:33:20,080 --> 00:33:21,840
It's the, it's right here.

604
00:33:21,840 --> 00:33:22,840
See it?

605
00:33:22,840 --> 00:33:23,840
Feel it?

606
00:33:23,840 --> 00:33:24,840
That's right here.

607
00:33:24,840 --> 00:33:25,840
Okay.

608
00:33:25,840 --> 00:33:27,800
It's not this ear in the sky.

609
00:33:27,800 --> 00:33:29,920
Don't separate yourself from it.

610
00:33:29,920 --> 00:33:30,920
Okay.

611
00:33:30,920 --> 00:33:34,960
We are living inside this energy and motion.

612
00:33:34,960 --> 00:33:40,000
It is the creation itself and that spark or creation is within you.

613
00:33:40,000 --> 00:33:45,400
Now if there's two of you, it's going to be a play on words as who is driving, who said

614
00:33:45,400 --> 00:33:52,840
it longer, who was really, but who really believed like if her energy was like, where can

615
00:33:52,840 --> 00:33:54,240
I get it?

616
00:33:54,240 --> 00:33:55,240
That can overpower you.

617
00:33:55,240 --> 00:33:58,720
So in, by the way, it's not even, I don't even like that word overpower.

618
00:33:58,720 --> 00:34:04,600
It's just if you don't start witnessing yourself as, wow.

619
00:34:04,600 --> 00:34:05,960
I said I couldn't get it.

620
00:34:05,960 --> 00:34:07,040
Do I do that a lot?

621
00:34:07,040 --> 00:34:08,360
Why do I do that?

622
00:34:08,360 --> 00:34:09,960
She said we could and we did.

623
00:34:09,960 --> 00:34:10,960
Okay.

624
00:34:10,960 --> 00:34:13,040
I'm just going to practice both of us.

625
00:34:13,040 --> 00:34:15,160
Let's just practice this.

626
00:34:15,160 --> 00:34:16,160
Test it.

627
00:34:16,160 --> 00:34:17,160
Test everything I say.

628
00:34:17,160 --> 00:34:20,240
I don't listen to anything I say until you test it for yourself.

629
00:34:20,240 --> 00:34:23,080
Just play in the unlimited field of potential.

630
00:34:23,080 --> 00:34:24,080
Right.

631
00:34:24,080 --> 00:34:26,880
Well, the one good, one thing I am really good at is bending time.

632
00:34:26,880 --> 00:34:27,880
You are.

633
00:34:27,880 --> 00:34:28,880
Right.

634
00:34:28,880 --> 00:34:31,480
So I'm really good at, we got to be there in 10 minutes.

635
00:34:31,480 --> 00:34:32,880
It's at 15 minute right?

636
00:34:32,880 --> 00:34:33,880
Right.

637
00:34:33,880 --> 00:34:34,880
Just don't look at the clock.

638
00:34:34,880 --> 00:34:36,640
Just believe you're going to get there in time.

639
00:34:36,640 --> 00:34:41,000
And inevitably, I think every single time knock on wood, we get there in time.

640
00:34:41,000 --> 00:34:42,640
And you're not like flying down the road?

641
00:34:42,640 --> 00:34:43,640
I'm not just flying regularly.

642
00:34:43,640 --> 00:34:44,640
Right.

643
00:34:44,640 --> 00:34:45,640
Yeah.

644
00:34:45,640 --> 00:34:46,640
Okay.

645
00:34:46,640 --> 00:34:48,880
So do you believe that you're doing that or do you know you're doing that now?

646
00:34:48,880 --> 00:34:49,880
No, I know.

647
00:34:49,880 --> 00:34:52,720
I know I'm doing it because I've done it playing it enough times.

648
00:34:52,720 --> 00:34:53,720
There you go.

649
00:34:53,720 --> 00:34:56,560
So if you know you can do that, can you do anything?

650
00:34:56,560 --> 00:34:58,560
No, that's about it.

651
00:34:58,560 --> 00:35:02,520
Because you're, no, but I mean you're moving time itself.

652
00:35:02,520 --> 00:35:03,520
Uh-huh.

653
00:35:03,520 --> 00:35:04,520
Pretty big, right?

654
00:35:04,520 --> 00:35:05,520
Yeah.

655
00:35:05,520 --> 00:35:06,520
Okay.

656
00:35:06,520 --> 00:35:07,520
Yeah.

657
00:35:07,520 --> 00:35:08,520
So what's a little parking spot?

658
00:35:08,520 --> 00:35:09,520
I mean, you're not wrong.

659
00:35:09,520 --> 00:35:10,520
Right.

660
00:35:10,520 --> 00:35:11,520
You got a great point.

661
00:35:11,520 --> 00:35:16,520
But it's a big leap for me, only because I've been doing the bending time since I was in my

662
00:35:16,520 --> 00:35:17,520
20s.

663
00:35:17,520 --> 00:35:21,560
So I guess to your point, it takes a little bit of time getting to the point where you know

664
00:35:21,560 --> 00:35:23,080
you get to get the parking spot.

665
00:35:23,080 --> 00:35:27,440
Well, if you don't try and you just say, I'm not, how are you ever going to know?

666
00:35:27,440 --> 00:35:28,440
No, you're right.

667
00:35:28,440 --> 00:35:29,440
No, you're right.

668
00:35:29,440 --> 00:35:34,280
Also, I said earlier, if you know you get the parking spot, why do you keep trying for the

669
00:35:34,280 --> 00:35:35,280
parking spot?

670
00:35:35,280 --> 00:35:39,960
If you know you can bend time, why don't you just check it off the list and that's on autopilot?

671
00:35:39,960 --> 00:35:41,840
That actually is on autopilot.

672
00:35:41,840 --> 00:35:45,160
You think you're doing it, but because you know it, it has to come in.

673
00:35:45,160 --> 00:35:46,160
Right.

674
00:35:46,160 --> 00:35:47,720
No, you're not, again, not wrong.

675
00:35:47,720 --> 00:35:48,720
Here's the thing.

676
00:35:48,720 --> 00:35:52,320
The reason why I'm having a hard time with it is because probably I don't want to be

677
00:35:52,320 --> 00:35:56,440
disappointed when I know I'm going to get the parking spot and it's not flipping there.

678
00:35:56,440 --> 00:35:58,080
Because you don't know it.

679
00:35:58,080 --> 00:35:59,080
That you're testing.

680
00:35:59,080 --> 00:36:01,120
You're like, I know it.

681
00:36:01,120 --> 00:36:02,720
But you got tested somehow, right?

682
00:36:02,720 --> 00:36:04,560
Well, yeah, but you're not testing your belief.

683
00:36:04,560 --> 00:36:06,200
You're testing the universe.

684
00:36:06,200 --> 00:36:08,320
If you're really real, give me the parking spot.

685
00:36:08,320 --> 00:36:10,000
You're not, you're not testing the universe.

686
00:36:10,000 --> 00:36:12,000
You're testing your own capability.

687
00:36:12,000 --> 00:36:13,000
Own powers.

688
00:36:13,000 --> 00:36:19,760
And if you're attached to outcomes and you want X, Y, Z, then you're not in the flow of

689
00:36:19,760 --> 00:36:21,360
the duality universe, right?

690
00:36:21,360 --> 00:36:23,080
Oh, now you're speaking in my language.

691
00:36:23,080 --> 00:36:24,080
Okay.

692
00:36:24,080 --> 00:36:25,080
You're talking surrender.

693
00:36:25,080 --> 00:36:28,200
You're allowing the universe take you to whatever's best suited for you at the particular

694
00:36:28,200 --> 00:36:29,200
point in time.

695
00:36:29,200 --> 00:36:32,040
So maybe we just need to walk off the calories from dinner and that's where we didn't get

696
00:36:32,040 --> 00:36:33,520
the parking spot in the front.

697
00:36:33,520 --> 00:36:34,520
That you're saying?

698
00:36:34,520 --> 00:36:37,920
I mean, it could be a million different things, right?

699
00:36:37,920 --> 00:36:45,200
What I'm saying is that if you're going to start your question with skepticism, then the

700
00:36:45,200 --> 00:36:47,760
universe is going to give you skepticism.

701
00:36:47,760 --> 00:36:48,760
Right.

702
00:36:48,760 --> 00:36:49,760
You've already lost.

703
00:36:49,760 --> 00:36:50,760
Right.

704
00:36:50,760 --> 00:36:51,760
All right.

705
00:36:51,760 --> 00:36:56,400
So if you want to change the way you're showing up in your own reality, then you've got

706
00:36:56,400 --> 00:37:03,680
to make a commitment to come in with no attachment and literally doing the homework and trial

707
00:37:03,680 --> 00:37:06,600
and error and see what works for you.

708
00:37:06,600 --> 00:37:11,720
And did I have a really bad day and then I was pretending to be happy and you've got to test

709
00:37:11,720 --> 00:37:12,720
it.

710
00:37:12,720 --> 00:37:13,720
No, thai sell, right?

711
00:37:13,720 --> 00:37:14,720
Yeah.

712
00:37:14,720 --> 00:37:15,720
That's the rub.

713
00:37:15,720 --> 00:37:19,960
I've been having some interesting experiences lately where things will show up before I know

714
00:37:19,960 --> 00:37:20,960
I need them.

715
00:37:20,960 --> 00:37:21,960
I think it was today.

716
00:37:21,960 --> 00:37:25,640
I was doing something and I saw this pair of clippers and I, well, that's a weird pair

717
00:37:25,640 --> 00:37:29,120
of clippers and then I went and there was a tag that I couldn't get off my shirt and I'm

718
00:37:29,120 --> 00:37:30,120
like, oh, clip.

719
00:37:30,120 --> 00:37:32,360
They were like, it was just weird.

720
00:37:32,360 --> 00:37:35,720
I don't know why the clippers were there, but that's stuff like that's been happening a

721
00:37:35,720 --> 00:37:36,720
lot.

722
00:37:36,720 --> 00:37:37,720
A lot, too.

723
00:37:37,720 --> 00:37:38,720
Okay.

724
00:37:38,720 --> 00:37:39,720
That's really good.

725
00:37:39,720 --> 00:37:40,720
I love stuff like that.

726
00:37:40,720 --> 00:37:41,720
That's fun.

727
00:37:41,720 --> 00:37:48,160
Because once you're dismantling your program and you're commanding your new belief system

728
00:37:48,160 --> 00:37:53,680
and then you're feeling that I don't know how but this feels really good and you're

729
00:37:53,680 --> 00:37:55,200
putting forth new actions.

730
00:37:55,200 --> 00:37:56,720
The universe starts showing up.

731
00:37:56,720 --> 00:37:59,680
You actually are a different version of yourself.

732
00:37:59,680 --> 00:38:05,960
You'll exist in 50 people's minds the last time they saw you three months ago, but you shifted.

733
00:38:05,960 --> 00:38:09,480
So the next time they see you, they'll think something's off because you're aware, and

734
00:38:09,480 --> 00:38:10,480
this is shifted.

735
00:38:10,480 --> 00:38:12,320
You're conscious of where this is shifted.

736
00:38:12,320 --> 00:38:17,320
You still live in the same house, but you see yourself differently in the play.

737
00:38:17,320 --> 00:38:23,200
And so once you get to that point, you'll start seeing that your script has already been

738
00:38:23,200 --> 00:38:24,380
written for you.

739
00:38:24,380 --> 00:38:28,640
When you stop writing the script from the ego at program, you'll see that there's several

740
00:38:28,640 --> 00:38:32,560
trajectories where the script has been written for you to get to this point, to have all these

741
00:38:32,560 --> 00:38:38,000
experiences from a soul, the remembrance of the soul, and things will start.

742
00:38:38,000 --> 00:38:42,080
You'll have little Mandela effects and things will start showing up to let you know.

743
00:38:42,080 --> 00:38:43,080
I got you.

744
00:38:43,080 --> 00:38:46,440
That's the quantum field communicating saying, "I got you.

745
00:38:46,440 --> 00:38:48,440
You don't even need to ask for it."

746
00:38:48,440 --> 00:38:52,600
Oh, man.

747
00:38:52,600 --> 00:38:53,600
You are in the flow.

748
00:38:53,600 --> 00:38:54,600
I'm so jealous.

749
00:38:54,600 --> 00:38:55,600
I'm just going to say jealous.

750
00:38:55,600 --> 00:38:56,600
So jealous.

751
00:38:56,600 --> 00:38:57,600
Yes, I am jealous.

752
00:38:57,600 --> 00:39:05,840
Does that mean that we can create anything we want, we can make anything happen, anything?

753
00:39:05,840 --> 00:39:06,840
Isn't that dangerous?

754
00:39:06,840 --> 00:39:07,840
Okay.

755
00:39:07,840 --> 00:39:12,080
So what's happening in the collective right now with the darkness and the control and the

756
00:39:12,080 --> 00:39:13,680
stuff that's come into the surface?

757
00:39:13,680 --> 00:39:14,680
Isn't that dangerous?

758
00:39:14,680 --> 00:39:15,680
Oh, yeah.

759
00:39:15,680 --> 00:39:21,480
Because if I told you that just watching all of that and talking about it is feeding the

760
00:39:21,480 --> 00:39:24,200
monster, that's dangerous, right?

761
00:39:24,200 --> 00:39:25,200
Yeah, I believe it.

762
00:39:25,200 --> 00:39:31,640
So if you just know that you want to create a new collective, we have to become the change

763
00:39:31,640 --> 00:39:34,760
we want to see for the whole first.

764
00:39:34,760 --> 00:39:37,960
Somebody's got to be the lighthouse on the shore to let the boats come in.

765
00:39:37,960 --> 00:39:41,880
So each one of us every day we do the best we can.

766
00:39:41,880 --> 00:39:43,120
The four agreements, right?

767
00:39:43,120 --> 00:39:46,400
Be impeccable with your word to yourself and others.

768
00:39:46,400 --> 00:39:48,360
Don't take anything personal.

769
00:39:48,360 --> 00:39:49,760
Boy, that's a good one, right?

770
00:39:49,760 --> 00:39:50,760
That's a hard one.

771
00:39:50,760 --> 00:39:54,680
That one took me 49 years to learn that one.

772
00:39:54,680 --> 00:39:57,880
And then don't assume anything out there.

773
00:39:57,880 --> 00:40:00,680
Observe, don't absorb.

774
00:40:00,680 --> 00:40:02,800
And forth, do the best you can every day.

775
00:40:02,800 --> 00:40:04,280
Stop criticizing yourself.

776
00:40:04,280 --> 00:40:05,720
Stop questioning.

777
00:40:05,720 --> 00:40:11,080
Just let the soul have the experience without critiquing it, judging it and putting it in

778
00:40:11,080 --> 00:40:13,440
a box of labelling is right or wrong.

779
00:40:13,440 --> 00:40:16,040
The soul just wants to have the experience.

780
00:40:16,040 --> 00:40:18,720
And when you're done with that, just turn this way.

781
00:40:18,720 --> 00:40:23,440
The universe, open up a new trajectory, show me new things and you have to be present to

782
00:40:23,440 --> 00:40:26,960
watch for the beautiful synchronicities and signs.

783
00:40:26,960 --> 00:40:32,480
So I'm hearing that our thought processes are words that they're building our reality.

784
00:40:32,480 --> 00:40:37,360
They're creating our reality as we go or the collective consciousness is creating the

785
00:40:37,360 --> 00:40:40,760
shared experiences that we're having, that kind of thing.

786
00:40:40,760 --> 00:40:46,280
Sometimes that can be hard to accept to someone whose life is less than ideal.

787
00:40:46,280 --> 00:40:49,240
But when you say to them, you are creating your own reality.

788
00:40:49,240 --> 00:40:55,360
And yet this person is experiencing all manner of things that are probably you hate to see

789
00:40:55,360 --> 00:40:57,600
anyone experience.

790
00:40:57,600 --> 00:41:02,000
How do you talk to them and say and help them to understand that it's them that's creating

791
00:41:02,000 --> 00:41:03,000
it?

792
00:41:03,000 --> 00:41:05,800
Or could it be that they're not creating it but someone else did?

793
00:41:05,800 --> 00:41:08,200
Because you said we can make anything happen.

794
00:41:08,200 --> 00:41:10,880
Could someone else be manifesting that for that person?

795
00:41:10,880 --> 00:41:16,160
No, another can manipulate the situation, control and manipulate.

796
00:41:16,160 --> 00:41:18,280
But they can't manifest on your behalf.

797
00:41:18,280 --> 00:41:24,040
And so yeah, if somebody is really going through it, the problem is it's, I call it a loop.

798
00:41:24,040 --> 00:41:25,520
They're in the loop.

799
00:41:25,520 --> 00:41:30,920
And if they're having a terrible life and they don't like where they're at, then they're

800
00:41:30,920 --> 00:41:33,640
in this loop of playing the victim.

801
00:41:33,640 --> 00:41:37,760
Now some might say rightfully so because it's x, y, z.

802
00:41:37,760 --> 00:41:38,840
I get all that.

803
00:41:38,840 --> 00:41:42,640
It's a personal journey for each person and there's no magic pill.

804
00:41:42,640 --> 00:41:46,840
And we don't do therapy.

805
00:41:46,840 --> 00:41:51,360
When somebody is really ready to do the work, we've got to show them how they're playing

806
00:41:51,360 --> 00:41:52,360
victim.

807
00:41:52,360 --> 00:41:57,840
And yes, you were handed apart as a victim, but do you want to remain a victim?

808
00:41:57,840 --> 00:42:02,760
And if you don't change the way you're thinking about your life and you don't change the words

809
00:42:02,760 --> 00:42:09,120
and you keep showing up as a victim, the universe loves you, it's going to keep on repeat.

810
00:42:09,120 --> 00:42:12,440
So you have to use some tools to get them to see.

811
00:42:12,440 --> 00:42:15,080
And usually they have to have proof.

812
00:42:15,080 --> 00:42:16,880
Everybody wants proof, right?

813
00:42:16,880 --> 00:42:22,600
And so you give them enough tools and you hope they commit and they get the proof they need.

814
00:42:22,600 --> 00:42:25,280
They come back and then you work with them.

815
00:42:25,280 --> 00:42:29,920
And I've had a lot of people that can literally at the first they think I'm crazy and then

816
00:42:29,920 --> 00:42:32,320
they come back to me and go, oh my God, you saved my life.

817
00:42:32,320 --> 00:42:34,160
And I said, no, you saved your life.

818
00:42:34,160 --> 00:42:35,160
You did it.

819
00:42:35,160 --> 00:42:36,160
You did the work.

820
00:42:36,160 --> 00:42:40,960
You're the one that cared about you enough finally to say no to everything in the field and create

821
00:42:40,960 --> 00:42:44,160
something new, but it's a process and it's a commitment.

822
00:42:44,160 --> 00:42:48,840
So how do you handle someone who for some reason wants to stay in victim mentality who's not

823
00:42:48,840 --> 00:42:53,200
ready to the work to just say, sorry, come back to me whenever you come around?

824
00:42:53,200 --> 00:42:54,200
You let them.

825
00:42:54,200 --> 00:42:56,440
So you just let them be the victim.

826
00:42:56,440 --> 00:43:00,560
You let them be let everybody be who they want to be because they're in their, they're

827
00:43:00,560 --> 00:43:03,080
in their experience and they haven't learned enough.

828
00:43:03,080 --> 00:43:04,600
They're not ready to graduate.

829
00:43:04,600 --> 00:43:08,480
But let's say that they are around all the time and they're kind of bringing the, I mean,

830
00:43:08,480 --> 00:43:09,800
they're bringing the bummer down, right?

831
00:43:09,800 --> 00:43:10,800
They're talking about me.

832
00:43:10,800 --> 00:43:11,800
No.

833
00:43:11,800 --> 00:43:13,120
Okay, I'm like, I'm around all the time.

834
00:43:13,120 --> 00:43:14,440
No, no, no.

835
00:43:14,440 --> 00:43:18,280
But someone who's like in your friend group or something like that, well, you're worse,

836
00:43:18,280 --> 00:43:22,600
your family and every time that they're around, they bring the buzz down, right?

837
00:43:22,600 --> 00:43:29,200
So if you have a friend that's coming into your reality and they're bringing the buzz

838
00:43:29,200 --> 00:43:33,520
down, you don't have boundaries because you're allowing the buzz come down because you're

839
00:43:33,520 --> 00:43:36,640
allowing them because nobody can bring your buzz down.

840
00:43:36,640 --> 00:43:40,200
Nobody can touch you when you're solid in here.

841
00:43:40,200 --> 00:43:46,120
But if you're still trying to appease or please or walking on eggshells around somebody,

842
00:43:46,120 --> 00:43:49,280
you haven't set a boundary and a boundary is not a bad thing.

843
00:43:49,280 --> 00:43:54,160
A boundary is never set for the other person, by the way, to forget that.

844
00:43:54,160 --> 00:43:57,240
If you try to set a boundary for them and you want their approval and you want them to

845
00:43:57,240 --> 00:44:00,000
like it, you're never going to set a boundary in your life.

846
00:44:00,000 --> 00:44:01,920
And you don't set a boundary to punish.

847
00:44:01,920 --> 00:44:04,920
You don't set a boundary to tell them you're mad at them.

848
00:44:04,920 --> 00:44:07,960
You set a boundary that this is how I live my life.

849
00:44:07,960 --> 00:44:09,560
This is what I choose for me.

850
00:44:09,560 --> 00:44:11,040
I love you.

851
00:44:11,040 --> 00:44:15,120
And if you don't see how I'm living and I'm going to see you how you're living and we don't

852
00:44:15,120 --> 00:44:18,360
try to change each other, then we can be around.

853
00:44:18,360 --> 00:44:21,760
But if you are going to act this way, this is not going to work for me.

854
00:44:21,760 --> 00:44:26,160
And we're not trying to change the person, but we're talking toxic behavior here.

855
00:44:26,160 --> 00:44:28,720
Sometimes you just got to let everybody be in a bad mood, right?

856
00:44:28,720 --> 00:44:29,720
Sure.

857
00:44:29,720 --> 00:44:34,000
It sounds like you're talking about when you drag you down, that sounds toxic to me.

858
00:44:34,000 --> 00:44:35,000
Yeah.

859
00:44:35,000 --> 00:44:39,360
And that's because you haven't set a boundary that this just doesn't work for me anymore.

860
00:44:39,360 --> 00:44:43,000
And they'll say, well, you used to and I'll be like, yeah, I used to tolerate a lot.

861
00:44:43,000 --> 00:44:44,520
And I just chose not to anymore.

862
00:44:44,520 --> 00:44:45,520
Yeah.

863
00:44:45,520 --> 00:44:47,720
So it's about trying to line the sand that you won't cross.

864
00:44:47,720 --> 00:44:53,120
And not allowing, I mean, I'm thinking of, let's say, a family situation where it's hard

865
00:44:53,120 --> 00:44:57,760
to let go of that family member and saying, sorry, but I can't be around you anymore because

866
00:44:57,760 --> 00:45:03,080
you are choosing to remain in victim mode and I choose not to be around that.

867
00:45:03,080 --> 00:45:04,080
Yeah.

868
00:45:04,080 --> 00:45:10,160
What if you wouldn't even have an opportunity to set a really good boundary for yourself,

869
00:45:10,160 --> 00:45:14,280
unless your family member was acting that way?

870
00:45:14,280 --> 00:45:18,000
What if the mirror that's a double mirror for both of you?

871
00:45:18,000 --> 00:45:23,320
What if it's your job to catch your ball on what they're teaching you to expand your

872
00:45:23,320 --> 00:45:28,840
conscious awareness of your own experience for your own evolution and maybe, maybe, maybe,

873
00:45:28,840 --> 00:45:35,080
if you get it first, you can one day hold that as the role model and let them leave and

874
00:45:35,080 --> 00:45:39,960
let them be them and don't try to change them and show them what it looks like when they're

875
00:45:39,960 --> 00:45:42,280
ready to come towards the lighthouse.

876
00:45:42,280 --> 00:45:45,080
So that's the thought process that everyone is a teacher.

877
00:45:45,080 --> 00:45:46,520
Everyone has something to teach you.

878
00:45:46,520 --> 00:45:48,960
Well, we're teachers and students in every moment.

879
00:45:48,960 --> 00:45:49,960
I'm a student.

880
00:45:49,960 --> 00:45:50,960
Yeah.

881
00:45:50,960 --> 00:45:54,680
I teach what I learn on myself and I actually embody this work, right?

882
00:45:54,680 --> 00:45:58,600
It changed my whole life and I'm in service now to teach those.

883
00:45:58,600 --> 00:46:00,800
But I have clients that don't understand it.

884
00:46:00,800 --> 00:46:05,200
They don't believe it and they don't want to do the work and I say, I'm totally fine with

885
00:46:05,200 --> 00:46:06,200
that.

886
00:46:06,200 --> 00:46:07,200
Like, I love you just the way you are.

887
00:46:07,200 --> 00:46:09,200
Do you love you the way you are?

888
00:46:09,200 --> 00:46:12,200
And then they'll come back a year later and say, I went and spent all this money.

889
00:46:12,200 --> 00:46:14,880
I went to all these people and now I'm coming back to you.

890
00:46:14,880 --> 00:46:15,880
Let's get to work.

891
00:46:15,880 --> 00:46:18,520
They just weren't ready then and I'm okay with that.

892
00:46:18,520 --> 00:46:20,320
I don't take it personal.

893
00:46:20,320 --> 00:46:24,760
I'm just here to hold space for those that are ready to do the work and it's not a lot

894
00:46:24,760 --> 00:46:30,920
of work, but it is work, you know, to dismantle this, you're in autopilot.

895
00:46:30,920 --> 00:46:32,440
I, I don't run on autopilot.

896
00:46:32,440 --> 00:46:33,440
I'm new.

897
00:46:33,440 --> 00:46:34,440
I change every day.

898
00:46:34,440 --> 00:46:37,520
I have new ideas and I just want to be myself.

899
00:46:37,520 --> 00:46:42,480
I wouldn't allow anybody in my life at this stage to question what kind of mood I'm in

900
00:46:42,480 --> 00:46:43,640
or how I'm showing up.

901
00:46:43,640 --> 00:46:45,000
I get to show up how I want.

902
00:46:45,000 --> 00:46:48,640
If you have a problem with it, the conflict is within you and I just hand them back the

903
00:46:48,640 --> 00:46:49,640
ball.

904
00:46:49,640 --> 00:46:52,560
That's a brave thing to do.

905
00:46:52,560 --> 00:46:58,280
I think I need to be a little bit braver with some people, but so let's say a full on, full

906
00:46:58,280 --> 00:47:03,760
on skeptic comes to you and says, I'm going to give you 10 minutes.

907
00:47:03,760 --> 00:47:06,400
We're genuinely open ears.

908
00:47:06,400 --> 00:47:09,160
What's the one thing you want to make sure that you leave them with?

909
00:47:09,160 --> 00:47:18,320
Yeah, the one thing that I would leave them with is if you can learn to truly put yourself

910
00:47:18,320 --> 00:47:19,720
first in your life.

911
00:47:19,720 --> 00:47:25,840
If you can literally put your hands on your heart and ask questions, who am I?

912
00:47:25,840 --> 00:47:27,280
Why am I here?

913
00:47:27,280 --> 00:47:28,280
What is it all about?

914
00:47:28,280 --> 00:47:31,880
And you truly want to hear the answers?

915
00:47:31,880 --> 00:47:38,880
The soul inside of you, the remembrance, your heart, your heartbeat will start to do something

916
00:47:38,880 --> 00:47:41,040
inside your DNA.

917
00:47:41,040 --> 00:47:46,160
It happens within and the outer field will start reflecting these new things and you'll

918
00:47:46,160 --> 00:47:48,300
have a thought and the answer will appear.

919
00:47:48,300 --> 00:47:52,220
You'll say I want to do something, you'll go to the coffee shop and they'll start talking

920
00:47:52,220 --> 00:47:55,920
behind the counter about what you just said because your script is playing out.

921
00:47:55,920 --> 00:47:59,520
It's letting you know there's a potential in the field.

922
00:47:59,520 --> 00:48:05,820
And if you can choose yourself and separate yourself from toxicity and news and just

923
00:48:05,820 --> 00:48:14,460
come down into some space, at least an hour a day and commit to some practicing some actions.

924
00:48:14,460 --> 00:48:19,820
And you choose you, I'm pretty sure that you're going to fall in love with yourself in a way

925
00:48:19,820 --> 00:48:22,480
that you didn't even know is possible.

926
00:48:22,480 --> 00:48:27,340
And when you reach that level of love within, you won't let anybody touch it.

927
00:48:27,340 --> 00:48:29,460
You'll share it, but you won't give it away.

928
00:48:29,460 --> 00:48:38,460
And so I would invite somebody to journey within on a self-love journey without criticism.

929
00:48:38,460 --> 00:48:41,160
And the outer field is showing up to help you.

930
00:48:41,160 --> 00:48:47,240
And so any family members, any friends, there's a soul inside that beautiful being that even

931
00:48:47,240 --> 00:48:53,560
though they're not ready, their human is not ready to transform, that soul is beaming

932
00:48:53,560 --> 00:48:57,080
wisdom to your soul to help you transform.

933
00:48:57,080 --> 00:49:00,160
Every interaction is happening for you not to you.

934
00:49:00,160 --> 00:49:03,160
And if you can live from that, you're going to see the proof.

935
00:49:03,160 --> 00:49:05,600
It has to appear.

936
00:49:05,600 --> 00:49:08,360
It has to.

937
00:49:08,360 --> 00:49:10,640
So what are you working on now?

938
00:49:10,640 --> 00:49:15,720
What do you want to make sure that the audience knows that what you're doing that can help them

939
00:49:15,720 --> 00:49:16,720
right now?

940
00:49:16,720 --> 00:49:22,360
Well, so my platform is attuned to guidance and a word is pretty self-explanatory.

941
00:49:22,360 --> 00:49:28,920
I'm here to help you attune to your own voice, your own rhythm, your own truth.

942
00:49:28,920 --> 00:49:30,680
It won't look like anybody else is.

943
00:49:30,680 --> 00:49:33,800
You're supposed to be so uniquely yours.

944
00:49:33,800 --> 00:49:39,640
And I do one-on-one coaching, I do group sessions, and I also do gene key sessions, which is kind

945
00:49:39,640 --> 00:49:43,560
of a soul mapping, to give you a little, for somebody who doesn't know where to start,

946
00:49:43,560 --> 00:49:44,960
oh my gosh, why am I here?

947
00:49:44,960 --> 00:49:50,800
It's pretty magical to give you a few tools to kind of look at and go, well, I am like this.

948
00:49:50,800 --> 00:49:56,360
And if you can start looking that I'm like this, and I'm okay with it, your whole world

949
00:49:56,360 --> 00:50:01,160
will change when you just accept all parts of you, even your shadows, because the shadows

950
00:50:01,160 --> 00:50:06,920
are your challenges to help you become courageous and strength-ful and powerful and want to

951
00:50:06,920 --> 00:50:07,920
make changes.

952
00:50:07,920 --> 00:50:13,440
And then I have courses that people can take that are lifetime courses that are 20 minutes

953
00:50:13,440 --> 00:50:17,440
each, and they can log in on their phone or their computer and at tracks, and they're their

954
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own guru, they're their own person that scores them.

955
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And the courses are that come from the tools and the techniques and the actions that I

956
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used on myself to dismantle my 49 year old egoic program that by the way served me for the

957
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49 years until the day I woke up and it didn't.

958
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And in that moment, my soul decided she wanted to have a new experience from unlimited potential,

959
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and I said, I don't have a problem with it.

960
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All right.

961
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Well, they give us that website one more time so we can put it up on screen.

962
00:50:50,320 --> 00:50:52,520
Oh, attunedguidance.com.

963
00:50:52,520 --> 00:50:53,520
Perfectly.

964
00:50:53,520 --> 00:50:57,160
And then I'm on Instagram, attitunedguidance.

965
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So yeah.

966
00:50:58,160 --> 00:50:59,160
All right.

967
00:50:59,160 --> 00:51:01,880
So we're going to add direct links to the website and the social media in our show notes.

968
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All you need to do is go to skepticmanversition.com if you missed anything and go to her episode page.

969
00:51:07,400 --> 00:51:08,880
You'll see the links directly in there.

970
00:51:08,880 --> 00:51:10,880
So it's easy for you to connect.

971
00:51:10,880 --> 00:51:13,400
Brenda, this has been fascinating.

972
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Thank you so much for coming on the show and blowing our minds because this is pretty awesome.

973
00:51:18,200 --> 00:51:19,520
Well, that's what we're doing.

974
00:51:19,520 --> 00:51:25,320
We're like cracking the program at the mind because everybody's kind of just living in their mind.

975
00:51:25,320 --> 00:51:29,720
And if you can just get out of it a little by a ways, you'll determine that you don't want

976
00:51:29,720 --> 00:51:31,440
to live in it too often.

977
00:51:31,440 --> 00:51:34,720
And when you're in your heart, it just shows you the way and it's much easier.

978
00:51:34,720 --> 00:51:35,720
It makes life much easier.

979
00:51:35,720 --> 00:51:40,120
I love that to get out of your head, get into your heart, live your life in that direction

980
00:51:40,120 --> 00:51:43,520
you're going to find it's actually a magical life in every way.

981
00:51:43,520 --> 00:51:44,520
Thanks so much.

982
00:51:44,520 --> 00:51:45,920
We'll see you again soon.

983
00:51:45,920 --> 00:51:46,920
Thank you.

984
00:51:46,920 --> 00:51:47,920
Thank you so much.

985
00:51:47,920 --> 00:51:48,920
Thank you.

986
00:51:48,920 --> 00:51:49,920
Thank you so much for coming on the show.

987
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And thank you so much for coming on the show.

988
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989
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990
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991
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992
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993
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994
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995
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996
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997
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998
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999
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1000
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1001
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1002
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1004
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1005
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1006
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1007
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1008
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