95% of Your Beliefs Are Blocking Your Spiritual Awakening

0:00 What if I told you that you have been running on a script? You wrote when you were 9 years old. Not metaphorically, like literally, the operating system currently in charge of your relationships, your career, your parking lot strategy, 9-year-old you. The one who thought lunchables were a complete meal and cried at commercials. Well, I guess today says that 95% of what's playing in your subconscious right now isn't even yours. It's a hand-me-down belief system from a third grade teacher or an ex or even your mother-in-law. And here's the part that broke my brain a little. She says, "The reason you can't hear the universe talking back to you isn't because it went quiet, it's because you keep telling it exactly what you don't want, and it is a very, very good listener."

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3:43 Hey there, I'm Will. And I'm Karen. Welcome back to the skepticmanivision as a show that takes spirituality seriously enough to ask the dumb questions that nobody else will. You're welcome. I thought there were no dumb questions. Probably not. But we're still asking many, right? Karen, I want you to think about the last time that you tried to change someone. A partner, a family member, a co-worker, how do you go for you? Well, like you're still here, so it went pretty well. I guess today has a pretty uncomfortable theory about that. She says you, you have been so busy trying to edit everyone else's story that you forgot you're holding the pen to your own and not in a bumper sticker kind of way.

4:25 She means literally like your thoughts, your words, the energy you're dragging into every room, they're actively writing the script of your life right now in real time, whether you are paying attention or not. Here's a part that got me though. She says most of us aren't even living our own story. We're living a rough draft that we wrote when we were nine years old and we never went back to revise it. So if you've ever felt like your life is happening to you instead of by you and you're ready to stop being a background character in your own existence, boy, do we have the perfect person for you today. Welcome to the show Brenda Lee Matosh. How you doing today? I'm doing great.

5:05 Thank you for having me. It's a pleasure to have you on the show especially because I may or may not be I can either confirm or deny that I'm one of those nine year olds who wrote the story never went back to it. So I'm looking forward to writing my own story. See now I wrote the story but it veered off into a different path and then the end result is kind of like yours, you know, but I became a mother so then you kind of become invisible. So we have two different stories that kind of have a similar situation. Can you help us? Yes, please. Yeah, so I mean, basically we're writing our script every moment of every day.

5:47 The most of the population is just doing it unconsciously and I'm here to help bring some awareness to the unconscious patterns, thoughts, words and really emotions that are happening within you and all of that within you is surrounding you every day to come back to see yourself. That is profound. What if you don't like what you see when you look at it and you see it? Yeah, so part of the journey of the beautiful soul who is a human evolutionary journey is to evolve into loving and liking every single part of your journey.

6:37 And so if you don't like what you see then there is a belief system and narrative plane, a program that probably doesn't even belong to you that your mind is feeding you something about yourself that you don't like and it's not true. It never was and nor it can be because the divine light that you are is perfect in every single moment. It can't get it wrong because it's just an inexperience. You talked about when you kind of look in the mirror and you don't see yourself or you have them for a while. What if you don't even think to look in the mirror? I think that's what's happened with me. So much time has gone by and I even think about it anymore.

7:18 I just follow that, continue with that hamster wheel. Yeah, so I find, so I used to be like that, right? I didn't want to look in the mirror, but I found that the entire world is a mirror of us. Imagine if you had a thought of I'm XYZ and you're in your house alone for five years and you never left the house and you never spoke to anybody. You wouldn't see yourself unless you actually looked in a mirror, but that wouldn't tell you anything. It wouldn't give you feedback, right? The only feedback that you would get by looking in a mirror in your bathroom is what's programmed in your mind in your belief system, how you talk about yourself and it's usually a self-critic, right? But if you never left your house for five years, you'd have zero feedback.

8:01 The only way you get feedback to see who you are is to go out into the world. And when you stop looking out at everybody with judgment, even when it's joking and you start seeing what are they showing me and me, you can absolutely see that everybody is a mirror reflection of you helping you get to where you're going. Even if they look stuck to you, take the gift and let them be who they are, right? So the very question that you don't want to look in the mirror is why wouldn't you want to look in the mirror? Like we're fascinating beings. We're incredible. Look at our systems, how we function and move through life. Why wouldn't you want to just stare at yourself and go, I live on planet Earth.

8:44 It's a little cookie down here, but I'm doing great. Well, some of us are more than others in terms of like, we feel that mirror a little bit more than others, right? Well, no, I'm even thinking like even past that, like it's not that you don't want to, you just don't think about it. It just doesn't even occur to you to look in the mirror. I think that's kind of... Living life unconsciously kind of. Yeah, you're just doing and doing it and you know, the next thing and you're just not even thinking about it. Yeah, I mean, the first step to understanding who you are, know thyself is to look in the mirror and look at your body and start questioning your mind and hear your voice and what am I saying all day? And do I show up the way I say?

9:25 Do I... Am I embodiment of how I live? Is there a glitch in my own system? But yeah, it always starts with us and has to because we're here to have self-awareness. The only way we come back to the whole of the creation, the light that's in everything, all that is there will be is to come back to who we are and then we light the path for the rest of them to know it's okay, right? Some of us are way showers and light workers that go ahead and do the work, right? Yes. However, in the world these days, it's a lot harder to maintain that way shower light worker mentality because we are constantly being bombarded by really stupid crap that people are doing out there.

10:12 Am I stupid? I mean, obviously things that are not in the best interest of all humanity. Unkindness, hate, fear-based, so... And divisive. So when you're faced with things like this, I know you said that it's a mirror to us, right? We're a reflection of us that we see in others. How is that possible? If we see others being so unkind and yet I mean, I hope I'm not unkind like that, so it's hard for me to write my head around that. First of all, you said it's hard to be a light worker, way shower, do the work. Right there you wrote your script that it's going to be hard. See as you speak it, you are the creator and if you're the creator and you believe it, then everything you speak creates the next clip in your reality because everything's coming from within for you to see yourself, right?

11:05 And so that's the number one thing that I would make sure that I don't say that life is hard and this is hard and that is hard because you never claim what you don't want. You don't speak into existence what you don't want. That's how much power you have, honestly. But I go around telling myself, "I'm the best tennis player ever and it never happens." Because you don't believe it. Or have a racket. Or a tennis ball. Be control every scene of our script. And look, you can't just say, "I'm going to dismantle my mind and I'm going to listen to my words and I'm going to open my heart and I'm going to take action in one day." It doesn't work that way, right?

11:46 You have to select the one that's kind of your biggest obstacle. What are you struggling with the most? Are you struggling with self-confidence? Are you struggling with how I speak to myself? Are you struggling with how you react to the world? You have to pick one. And then you start working with it. And once you start working with it, you'll start to see the proof that you're in the same house, but inside of you shift it and when you go out, everything around you shifts. People respond to you differently. They don't know, "Did you change your hair? Do you have new makeup? Did you lose weight?" They don't know what it is. It's an energetic shift of how you now are showing up. This happens over time, little by little and little by little becomes a lot.

12:28 Also by working on it, do you mean just be aware of the things that you're saying and things like that? I'm assuming it's much more to it than just that, you know? Well, yeah, I mean, you definitely need to be impeccable with your word. You must be. You need to hear yourself speak. I talk out loud and when I was dismantling my own egoic program that I didn't agree with anymore, that didn't make sense to me, that had been with me for 49 years and I just didn't believe it. I started questioning everything. It couldn't answer me because the program can only answer what's been deposited. If I want to go over here and haven't been there before, it just puts up fear but it has no validity for that fear. I question everything.

13:09 Once you start realizing that most of the things that are playing 95% in the background and you're subconscious that are creating your reality aren't even yours. Their belief systems that were handed down to you by a schoolteacher or a friend or an old boyfriend or their family or a mother-in-law, whoever it is, right? Your family. You start to just go, "Oh, well, that got me to hear but that's not going to serve me with the desires that I have." And you just start testing it. I promise you it works. But first you got to dismantle. It's like you got to get the robber breaking in the house in the act. You got to hear yourself say it. So many times that you go, "I can't believe I keep saying that.

13:49 That's not my thought in word. Why am I doing it?" I want to get back to the question that you had asked about the reflections. And I was thinking about that the same too. If you consider yourself, or you do kind gestures and you talk about love and that's what you put out, but you see this toxicity and people being unkind, how do you see that reflection and take that as a reflection of you? How do you work with that? You know, don't take anything literal and nothing is as it seems. These are the two rules that you need to start practicing. And so when you see things out in the world that aren't you, that aren't aligned with you, that are just sad, darkness, evil, whatever your word is, it's contrast to who you are.

14:32 You have to know that. The mere is, why are you attaching yourself to something that you don't like? Why are you in the news? Why are you scrolling? Not only why are you scrolling and watching it, but you're delivering it to somebody else who didn't scroll and see it. That adds to the collective narrative that's playing in that script, which is darkness or low vibration or negative vibration. In that moment and you'll play and go back and forth, I mean, it's a duality planet. You wouldn't even know that you were in the light unless you saw somebody in the dark. You wouldn't even know what it felt like to be happy unless you had a sad day.

15:14 This is the human experience. The soul wants to experience everything that it can. It just doesn't want to hang onto it too long. It wants to receive the experience, find an awareness of itself in that experience and then move on. It wants to be in motion as energy is, but people get stuck and then they play victim and they blame. And then if you're blaming the government for everything they're doing, but you're not changing things inside your four walls and inside your psyche, then you're adding to that collective narrative. It's not tit for tat. There's like two frequencies, love and fear, which one are you vibrating in every day?

15:56 I love that. Yeah, I do too. For us, we can understand that and there's things that we can actively do, but I'm thinking we have a daughter in high school and she's a freshman in high school. And she has been in private school and like these very small environments that are very well controlled, teachers very involved. And so now she's in this huge public school with just so many kids, it's hard. That was in some kids. Thousands of kids. And so she comes home not every day, but almost every day of the day saying, oh my gosh, mom, you should have heard the way this person said to this person or she tells me these stories of things that she sees. How do we teach her at a young age? Because now's when she really needs to know to work with that and not because she's not talking about people being mean to her.

16:40 But she's seeing it. Like, she wouldn't have been missing it. So what does she do with that? So she has a, is stupe awareness. I had it too, right? And so I would advise her to observe, not absorb. If she can learn to observe what she's seeing with all of these kids, which could be quite overwhelming, I'm sure in high school, I wouldn't go back for anything. Did it? Yeah, if she could just learn to observe the behavior, observe what's going on. And in that moment, rather than absorbing the story and coming home and giving it to you, determine in that moment, would this hurt me or help me?

17:21 Would this group of girls be a good fit for me or not? Are they showing me contrast or is there a resonance there? Am I attracted to that energy or am I just observing it as a choice in the candy store that I don't want to pick? The other thing is that she wants to help the victim. Always. She wants to pull them up and she will go up and she'll go over here. I want to show you something and change the whole topic. Yes, just see if you're mentality. Yeah, but that's going to be really tough on her, too. Yeah. Well, yeah, so I was very empathic and still am. And in school, I wanted to rescue and help and fix and save. And I felt everybody's sadness and I fought for the underdog and I was always doing that.

18:02 And that's a beautiful thing, her heart. She's in her heart and that's really sweet. That you've got to teach her that she's not the savior of everybody else. And it's okay for her to feel and want to help because this is such a beautiful quality that we get to experience. But just make sure that she doesn't ever give away herself. Don't empty your own cup to fill another. Make sure that she's aware. Am I saving them because I feel sorry for them or am I lacking something in myself? Yeah. As a rescuer, it takes on a lot of momentum at this age and you don't want her to fall into the hamster wheel on that because it's hard.

18:43 It took me 49 years to get off the hamster wheel doing that. And I would say actually, there's a lot of people right now who are way older than our daughter, who are in that as an adult, going through the motion. So if this resonates with you, whether you're a kid or a grown up, it's very relevant to you, Karen. Bus, me, Karen. Oh, oh, oh, yeah. There's a teenager in my school. Yeah, just saying, right? Yeah. Oh, great. And she's just like me. Jackie for her daughter. That's okay. We can use your daughter as a typical for the whole class. Yeah, I'm pretty bad, but she is too.

19:24 I mean, not bad, you know. The phrase comes to mind, chip off the old block or apple for the tree, I don't know, but it's great advice. And close to what we have already told her, but the phrasing that you used, observe, don't absorb that is, I'm going to like write it somewhere so she sees it everywhere all the time. That's fantastic. Yeah. And is this hurting me or helping me? If she came home and told you something, just say, okay, you just told me that how does that make you feel inside? Oh, it made me feel icky. Okay, well, don't attach yourself to things that feel icky. I tell people, just don't deliver me that news. When people don't give me something icky, I'm like, if I want the news, I'll watch it.

20:07 I don't need you to deliver that to me. I turn the news off 10 years ago. Have no idea what's going on in the world. It's a really wonderful place to be, right? And people deliver me what I need to know. Well, I think that the kitten was actually rescued from the tree. And so what do you say to people that say that this sounds dangerously close to just thinking positive thoughts? Yeah. So, you know, I'm not naive and it took me a long time to get to the point. But yeah, positivity has a lot to do with it in a sense, but I'm talking truth. And my truth won't look like your truth. Only you know. But if you have a program playing in the background on repeat, which is patterns and habits, it's kind of like when you get in your car, you don't think, how am I going to start the car and drive?

20:57 You're just on autopilot all day. You kind of mentioned that earlier, right? That you don't have time to look in the mirror. Look, life is really busy. And that's okay. It's supposed to be for some, but the whisper inside, it's a soft sound that only you can hear and feel. And if you're not making space for it throughout the day, you probably won't hear it for a long time. And so it's not about being positive. Certainly I choose to live a positive life in the light where I see hope for humanity as a collective, but I'm aware that there's stuff out there and I keep myself informed and protected, but I just don't give it my energy because whatever you put your energy to, it just amplifies it.

21:39 That's how powerful you are. And I know there's enough people in front of the TV at 6 p.m. every night worrying about what's going on in the world, even though it's been reported the same thing for 14 days in a row. I just don't need to hear things more than two minutes and go, okay, I see what's going on. I'm good. It's not positive. It's living from a place of, do you want to be in denial or do you want to know what's going on? Yeah, I'm a headline reader. That's all I need. I'm keep myself, what's going on in the world by reading the headline, but I don't got diving any further than that is too much for me. Anyway, that is a great way to live. We often talked about how we are here for a reason. We're here to experience everything.

22:20 We're in a duality planet. The whole thing, we need to have the good with the bad at everything. It's part of the experience for us. However, how would you suggest with the world going as fast as it's going to be? We are moving a million miles an hour. How would you suggest being able to monitor yourself all the time? How do you put your feet on the ground and remember to not think that bad thought? All the time. First, you have to make a commitment to yourself that you really want it because if you don't really want it, the program, the mind wins because the mind thinks it's protecting you from something out there that's unknown and I run towards the unknown and change.

23:00 My mind cannot stop me at this point, right? And so when you commit to yourself, you just start with one thing and you can just ask your mind, tell me the one thought that you want me to hear all the time. You can start working with it and speaking out loud and when you hear something that's not yours, you have to catch yourself when you hear it or you say it. If you took 20 minutes at the beginning of every day, how do I start my day and you were in silent and you just listen to your thoughts, you would be like, why would I even think that? Because that's plain in the background. So once you start doing that work, you question it, where's that thought coming from? How do I know that? Tell me what I don't know.

23:42 There's no answer because your mind won't tell you what you don't know. There's techniques to use to start doing it and once you do the work, you'll want to do it because you'll catch yourself saying stuff and thinking stuff all day that don't belong to you and it'll become a really fun game. It really will, I did it. The game of risk. So how do you, when you're talking about your soul and then the things that you say to yourself, is it your soul that you have to change how it talks to you or is it your ego and if it's your ego, how do you get the two of them on the same channel? So the soul is starting to remember. This is what we're seeing in the great awakening here, huh?

24:22 The soul inside that it's starting to remember. We're in the grand illusion, right? Maya, the grand illusion. And so the mind has power in the illusion of the matrix because it's been programmed and it's just like a computer, right? It's just running on autopilot. The soul starts to remember that I have a little more power than that. When you start questioning everything and dismantling this darn egoic program, you have an intellectual mind that is so brilliant and so beautiful. And what happens is the heart starts, there's a heart coherence that happens. The heart already has all the codes of what you should be doing in life.

25:05 It already knows the way. There's so many trajectories that could get you to that final point. You can't make a wrong turn. You're going to know matter what you do and what you go through. You're going to get to that end point that the soul came here for the evolutionary experience. And so the soul is not attached to good, bad, right, or wrong. When the soul starts remembering, it will give you pulls and nudges. And it's always from love. It's never, ever from criticism. The criticism is a programmed mind trying to thinking that it's protecting you from this unsafe place to go in the unknown and the void and try something new. And you've got to break down that program and question everything and say, that's not my thought. Nope.

25:46 I'm not afraid to do that. You can't tell me what to do. I haven't done it yet. How do you know the outcome? We're not in the future. You can't go back to the past and you cannot jump into the future in the present moment right here is when you make all the changes and you make changes through self-awareness. That's the only way you get there. You talk about the heart-mind coherence. Is that something that you can feel in your body? Oh, yeah. So how does that feel? What does that feel like exactly? We need to take a quick pause, but we'll be right back right into these messages. And now back to the show. Hey there, quick question for you. Are you getting our newsletter?

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27:50 You're just going to live and be joyful and it happens inside and once you touch it, you don't give it up. You don't give it up to anybody. And so there's a process that happens with these practices that I offer. A lot of people have practices or just tools in your toolbox. Everybody will be drawn to somebody who resonates with them and it's divine timing and when you do that work, you'll just, for me, I was laying in bed and I heard my mind say something that was kind of like startling to me, that my mind, because I had been doing so much work and I heard my heart say, no, no, dear, it's okay. And then I heard my mind surrender and go, oh my gosh, you're totally right.

28:32 And I heard this conversation inside and I was like, I just reached heart, my coherence. It was like so magical because I had read about it and I was doing the work and it just happened because everything's happening inside. You know, I think I felt that the other day, but it turned out it was just in digestion. Hey, you know, however your heart is trying to talk to you, it might be, it might be a little kind of acid reflux. I mean, hey, it's in the mean. Knock, knock, knock, wake up. That may or may not be why Kerry tells around, you know, I'm just saying, but you also talk about the quantum field always communicating with us.

29:13 You say that it's always talking to us, always sending us messages. Why can't I hear it? Yeah, so it's not sending you messages. It's responding to everything you're putting out. So if you're not holding space to listen to what you're saying, how can you hear what the quantum field is saying, right? If you're tuned into the outer world, which is all the noise in the chaos and the TV and the scrolling and the news and the headlines and all that, then that's all you can hear because what you put your attention to, you get more. By the way, the quantum field is created by all of us. It's designed to work of our free will.

29:54 It's neutral. It's not mad at anybody. It gives you what you put out. The minute you make a shift, you'll test it. You'll see the proof. It has to appear. Whatever you decide to put your attention to that's new, it will appear and show it to you. So it's moving in its motion around us at all times. It never turns off. It's absolutely happening in real time. Well, it's interesting. You mentioned that you say that we created, but I was always on the impression that quantum field was everything and we were just a part of it. Well we come from the one creation of all. So the way I view life is we are the spark of creation itself.

30:36 Some people call it God, source, creator, the divine. It doesn't matter what it's called and label. This is what separates us, is all these labels and words and I call it this in my religion and my belief system. And all of that is perfect for the person that wants to have that play, that script, right? But I just work with how I see everything for myself and then obviously I'm in service to share this wisdom with all those that are open to receive it. Nobody has to believe anything I say. I say, test it. But if you're not dismantling your program, you're not going to see a lot of results because this has power.

31:16 Yeah, no, for sure. So someone wants to listen to the quantum field. What should we be looking for? So the quantum field is every thought, every feel, your emotions and everything you speak. You could test it. You know, a lot of people test it with, I want front row parking. That's a good one. And then I tell people, you got to graduate front row parking. See at work a few times, you got to step it up and ask for something new. How many times do you need to get front row parking, right? We can get front row parking. I've been doing it wrong all along. Because you're thinking, I don't want the worst parking spot and it's just hearing the worst parking spot. Yeah, I mean, she's absolutely right. I have people say all the time, oh, you know, I said this and then I had the worst day and I'm like, well, according to the universe, you had a perfect day because you created it and you get what you want.

32:07 Right. It's just how it works. Right. But you got to test it. Is it a belief system like you believe you're going to get front row parking? Yeah. So I know. Oh, so it's annoying. I know now, right? But you start with a little bit of curiosity outside your comfort zone. Be a little curious that you don't understand anything that person saying, but they said one little thing that you're going, hmm, hmm, hmm, a little curious. With that curiosity, you start asking questions. In those questions, you start seeing a little bit of results. That changes your belief system. Once it's happened a few times, you're in the knowing, now you're claiming. You're living from a space of claiming.

32:49 And yesterday, we got front row parking. Thank you very much. I went to go pick up and you're like, it's going to be packed like you never know. It's a Tuesday. There's not a people there. We're going to get a spot on the street. Okay. Which brings me up to another point on that whole thing is you claim to you claim to it. She did, but I said the complete opposite. There's no way. Right. So obviously she won. So she speaks to the quantum field way better than me. But the question is, when you have two opposing willingnesses or whatever, how does the quantum field know what to give them? Yeah. So the quantum field is this. It's the, it's right here. See it? Feel it? That's right here. Okay. It's not this ear in the sky. Don't separate yourself from it.

33:29 Okay. We are living inside this energy and motion. It is the creation itself and that spark or creation is within you. Now if there's two of you, it's going to be a play on words as who is driving, who said it longer, who was really, but who really believed like if her energy was like, where can I get it? That can overpower you. So in, by the way, it's not even, I don't even like that word overpower. It's just if you don't start witnessing yourself as, wow. I said I couldn't get it. Do I do that a lot? Why do I do that? She said we could and we did.

34:09 Okay. I'm just going to practice both of us. Let's just practice this. Test it. Test everything I say. I don't listen to anything I say until you test it for yourself. Just play in the unlimited field of potential. Right. Well, the one good, one thing I am really good at is bending time. You are. Right. So I'm really good at, we got to be there in 10 minutes. It's at 15 minute right? Right. Just don't look at the clock. Just believe you're going to get there in time. And inevitably, I think every single time knock on wood, we get there in time. And you're not like flying down the road? I'm not just flying regularly. Right. Yeah. Okay. So do you believe that you're doing that or do you know you're doing that now? No, I know. I know I'm doing it because I've done it playing it enough times.

34:52 There you go. So if you know you can do that, can you do anything? No, that's about it. Because you're, no, but I mean you're moving time itself. Uh-huh. Pretty big, right? Yeah. Okay. Yeah. So what's a little parking spot? I mean, you're not wrong. Right. You got a great point. But it's a big leap for me, only because I've been doing the bending time since I was in my 20s. So I guess to your point, it takes a little bit of time getting to the point where you know you get to get the parking spot. Well, if you don't try and you just say, I'm not, how are you ever going to know? No, you're right. No, you're right. Also, I said earlier, if you know you get the parking spot, why do you keep trying for the parking spot?

35:35 If you know you can bend time, why don't you just check it off the list and that's on autopilot? That actually is on autopilot. You think you're doing it, but because you know it, it has to come in. Right. No, you're not, again, not wrong. Here's the thing. The reason why I'm having a hard time with it is because probably I don't want to be disappointed when I know I'm going to get the parking spot and it's not flipping there. Because you don't know it. That you're testing. You're like, I know it. But you got tested somehow, right? Well, yeah, but you're not testing your belief. You're testing the universe. If you're really real, give me the parking spot. You're not, you're not testing the universe. You're testing your own capability. Own powers. And if you're attached to outcomes and you want X, Y, Z, then you're not in the flow of the duality universe, right?

36:21 Oh, now you're speaking in my language. Okay. You're talking surrender. You're allowing the universe take you to whatever's best suited for you at the particular point in time. So maybe we just need to walk off the calories from dinner and that's where we didn't get the parking spot in the front. That you're saying? I mean, it could be a million different things, right? What I'm saying is that if you're going to start your question with skepticism, then the universe is going to give you skepticism. Right. You've already lost. Right. All right. So if you want to change the way you're showing up in your own reality, then you've got to make a commitment to come in with no attachment and literally doing the homework and trial and error and see what works for you.

37:06 And did I have a really bad day and then I was pretending to be happy and you've got to test it. No, thai sell, right? Yeah. That's the rub. I've been having some interesting experiences lately where things will show up before I know I need them. I think it was today. I was doing something and I saw this pair of clippers and I, well, that's a weird pair of clippers and then I went and there was a tag that I couldn't get off my shirt and I'm like, oh, clip. They were like, it was just weird. I don't know why the clippers were there, but that's stuff like that's been happening a lot. A lot, too. Okay. That's really good. I love stuff like that. That's fun. Because once you're dismantling your program and you're commanding your new belief system and then you're feeling that I don't know how but this feels really good and you're putting forth new actions.

37:55 The universe starts showing up. You actually are a different version of yourself. You'll exist in 50 people's minds the last time they saw you three months ago, but you shifted. So the next time they see you, they'll think something's off because you're aware, and this is shifted. You're conscious of where this is shifted. You still live in the same house, but you see yourself differently in the play. And so once you get to that point, you'll start seeing that your script has already been written for you. When you stop writing the script from the ego at program, you'll see that there's several trajectories where the script has been written for you to get to this point, to have all these experiences from a soul, the remembrance of the soul, and things will start.

38:38 You'll have little Mandela effects and things will start showing up to let you know. I got you. That's the quantum field communicating saying, "I got you. You don't even need to ask for it." Oh, man. You are in the flow. I'm so jealous. I'm just going to say jealous. So jealous. Yes, I am jealous. Does that mean that we can create anything we want, we can make anything happen, anything? Isn't that dangerous? Okay. So what's happening in the collective right now with the darkness and the control and the stuff that's come into the surface? Isn't that dangerous? Oh, yeah. Because if I told you that just watching all of that and talking about it is feeding the monster, that's dangerous, right?

39:24 Yeah, I believe it. So if you just know that you want to create a new collective, we have to become the change we want to see for the whole first. Somebody's got to be the lighthouse on the shore to let the boats come in. So each one of us every day we do the best we can. The four agreements, right? Be impeccable with your word to yourself and others. Don't take anything personal. Boy, that's a good one, right? That's a hard one. That one took me 49 years to learn that one. And then don't assume anything out there. Observe, don't absorb. And forth, do the best you can every day. Stop criticizing yourself.

40:04 Stop questioning. Just let the soul have the experience without critiquing it, judging it and putting it in a box of labelling is right or wrong. The soul just wants to have the experience. And when you're done with that, just turn this way. The universe, open up a new trajectory, show me new things and you have to be present to watch for the beautiful synchronicities and signs. So I'm hearing that our thought processes are words that they're building our reality. They're creating our reality as we go or the collective consciousness is creating the shared experiences that we're having, that kind of thing. Sometimes that can be hard to accept to someone whose life is less than ideal.

40:46 But when you say to them, you are creating your own reality. And yet this person is experiencing all manner of things that are probably you hate to see anyone experience. How do you talk to them and say and help them to understand that it's them that's creating it? Or could it be that they're not creating it but someone else did? Because you said we can make anything happen. Could someone else be manifesting that for that person? No, another can manipulate the situation, control and manipulate. But they can't manifest on your behalf. And so yeah, if somebody is really going through it, the problem is it's, I call it a loop. They're in the loop. And if they're having a terrible life and they don't like where they're at, then they're in this loop of playing the victim.

41:33 Now some might say rightfully so because it's x, y, z. I get all that. It's a personal journey for each person and there's no magic pill. And we don't do therapy. When somebody is really ready to do the work, we've got to show them how they're playing victim. And yes, you were handed apart as a victim, but do you want to remain a victim? And if you don't change the way you're thinking about your life and you don't change the words and you keep showing up as a victim, the universe loves you, it's going to keep on repeat. So you have to use some tools to get them to see. And usually they have to have proof.

42:15 Everybody wants proof, right? And so you give them enough tools and you hope they commit and they get the proof they need. They come back and then you work with them. And I've had a lot of people that can literally at the first they think I'm crazy and then they come back to me and go, oh my God, you saved my life. And I said, no, you saved your life. You did it. You did the work. You're the one that cared about you enough finally to say no to everything in the field and create something new, but it's a process and it's a commitment. So how do you handle someone who for some reason wants to stay in victim mentality who's not ready to the work to just say, sorry, come back to me whenever you come around? You let them. So you just let them be the victim.

42:56 You let them be let everybody be who they want to be because they're in their, they're in their experience and they haven't learned enough. They're not ready to graduate. But let's say that they are around all the time and they're kind of bringing the, I mean, they're bringing the bummer down, right? They're talking about me. No. Okay, I'm like, I'm around all the time. No, no, no. But someone who's like in your friend group or something like that, well, you're worse, your family and every time that they're around, they bring the buzz down, right? So if you have a friend that's coming into your reality and they're bringing the buzz down, you don't have boundaries because you're allowing the buzz come down because you're allowing them because nobody can bring your buzz down.

43:36 Nobody can touch you when you're solid in here. But if you're still trying to appease or please or walking on eggshells around somebody, you haven't set a boundary and a boundary is not a bad thing. A boundary is never set for the other person, by the way, to forget that. If you try to set a boundary for them and you want their approval and you want them to like it, you're never going to set a boundary in your life. And you don't set a boundary to punish. You don't set a boundary to tell them you're mad at them. You set a boundary that this is how I live my life. This is what I choose for me. I love you. And if you don't see how I'm living and I'm going to see you how you're living and we don't try to change each other, then we can be around.

44:18 But if you are going to act this way, this is not going to work for me. And we're not trying to change the person, but we're talking toxic behavior here. Sometimes you just got to let everybody be in a bad mood, right? Sure. It sounds like you're talking about when you drag you down, that sounds toxic to me. Yeah. And that's because you haven't set a boundary that this just doesn't work for me anymore. And they'll say, well, you used to and I'll be like, yeah, I used to tolerate a lot. And I just chose not to anymore. Yeah. So it's about trying to line the sand that you won't cross. And not allowing, I mean, I'm thinking of, let's say, a family situation where it's hard to let go of that family member and saying, sorry, but I can't be around you anymore because you are choosing to remain in victim mode and I choose not to be around that.

45:03 Yeah. What if you wouldn't even have an opportunity to set a really good boundary for yourself, unless your family member was acting that way? What if the mirror that's a double mirror for both of you? What if it's your job to catch your ball on what they're teaching you to expand your conscious awareness of your own experience for your own evolution and maybe, maybe, maybe, if you get it first, you can one day hold that as the role model and let them leave and let them be them and don't try to change them and show them what it looks like when they're ready to come towards the lighthouse. So that's the thought process that everyone is a teacher.

45:45 Everyone has something to teach you. Well, we're teachers and students in every moment. I'm a student. Yeah. I teach what I learn on myself and I actually embody this work, right? It changed my whole life and I'm in service now to teach those. But I have clients that don't understand it. They don't believe it and they don't want to do the work and I say, I'm totally fine with that. Like, I love you just the way you are. Do you love you the way you are? And then they'll come back a year later and say, I went and spent all this money. I went to all these people and now I'm coming back to you. Let's get to work. They just weren't ready then and I'm okay with that. I don't take it personal. I'm just here to hold space for those that are ready to do the work and it's not a lot of work, but it is work, you know, to dismantle this, you're in autopilot.

46:30 I, I don't run on autopilot. I'm new. I change every day. I have new ideas and I just want to be myself. I wouldn't allow anybody in my life at this stage to question what kind of mood I'm in or how I'm showing up. I get to show up how I want. If you have a problem with it, the conflict is within you and I just hand them back the ball. That's a brave thing to do. I think I need to be a little bit braver with some people, but so let's say a full on, full on skeptic comes to you and says, I'm going to give you 10 minutes. We're genuinely open ears. What's the one thing you want to make sure that you leave them with? Yeah, the one thing that I would leave them with is if you can learn to truly put yourself first in your life.

47:19 If you can literally put your hands on your heart and ask questions, who am I? Why am I here? What is it all about? And you truly want to hear the answers? The soul inside of you, the remembrance, your heart, your heartbeat will start to do something inside your DNA. It happens within and the outer field will start reflecting these new things and you'll have a thought and the answer will appear. You'll say I want to do something, you'll go to the coffee shop and they'll start talking behind the counter about what you just said because your script is playing out. It's letting you know there's a potential in the field. And if you can choose yourself and separate yourself from toxicity and news and just come down into some space, at least an hour a day and commit to some practicing some actions.

48:14 And you choose you, I'm pretty sure that you're going to fall in love with yourself in a way that you didn't even know is possible. And when you reach that level of love within, you won't let anybody touch it. You'll share it, but you won't give it away. And so I would invite somebody to journey within on a self-love journey without criticism. And the outer field is showing up to help you. And so any family members, any friends, there's a soul inside that beautiful being that even though they're not ready, their human is not ready to transform, that soul is beaming wisdom to your soul to help you transform.

48:57 Every interaction is happening for you not to you. And if you can live from that, you're going to see the proof. It has to appear. It has to. So what are you working on now? What do you want to make sure that the audience knows that what you're doing that can help them right now? Well, so my platform is attuned to guidance and a word is pretty self-explanatory. I'm here to help you attune to your own voice, your own rhythm, your own truth. It won't look like anybody else is. You're supposed to be so uniquely yours. And I do one-on-one coaching, I do group sessions, and I also do gene key sessions, which is kind of a soul mapping, to give you a little, for somebody who doesn't know where to start, oh my gosh, why am I here?

49:44 It's pretty magical to give you a few tools to kind of look at and go, well, I am like this. And if you can start looking that I'm like this, and I'm okay with it, your whole world will change when you just accept all parts of you, even your shadows, because the shadows are your challenges to help you become courageous and strength-ful and powerful and want to make changes. And then I have courses that people can take that are lifetime courses that are 20 minutes each, and they can log in on their phone or their computer and at tracks, and they're their own guru, they're their own person that scores them. And the courses are that come from the tools and the techniques and the actions that I used on myself to dismantle my 49 year old egoic program that by the way served me for the 49 years until the day I woke up and it didn't.

50:35 And in that moment, my soul decided she wanted to have a new experience from unlimited potential, and I said, I don't have a problem with it. All right. Well, they give us that website one more time so we can put it up on screen. Oh, attunedguidance.com. Perfectly. And then I'm on Instagram, attitunedguidance. So yeah. All right. So we're going to add direct links to the website and the social media in our show notes. All you need to do is go to skepticmanversition.com if you missed anything and go to her episode page. You'll see the links directly in there. So it's easy for you to connect. Brenda, this has been fascinating. Thank you so much for coming on the show and blowing our minds because this is pretty awesome.

51:18 Well, that's what we're doing. We're like cracking the program at the mind because everybody's kind of just living in their mind. And if you can just get out of it a little by a ways, you'll determine that you don't want to live in it too often. And when you're in your heart, it just shows you the way and it's much easier. It makes life much easier. I love that to get out of your head, get into your heart, live your life in that direction you're going to find it's actually a magical life in every way. Thanks so much. We'll see you again soon. Thank you. Thank you so much. Thank you. Thank you so much for coming on the show. And thank you so much for coming on the show. And thank you so much for coming on the show. And thank you so much for coming on the show. And thank you so much for coming on the show. And thank you so much for coming on the show. And thank you so much for coming on the show. And thank you so much for coming on the show. And thank you so much for coming on the show. And thank you so much for coming on the show.

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