Manifestation & Mindset Coach Explains How To Raise Spiritually Awakened Kids
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What if the secret to raising emotionally resilient, confident kids was never about being perfect, but about being present?

This episode is a masterclass in manifestation, intentional living, and mindset mastery...not just for children, but for the adults who are still trying to find their way back to magic.​

Ashley Gonor, mindset coach, host of Uncover Your Magic podcast, and founder of the Raising Confidence movement, joins Will and Karen for an intimate conversation that will challenge everything you thought you knew about parenting, limiting beliefs, and the power of words to shape your reality.​​

Why You Need to Listen Right Now
If you've ever felt stuck, overwhelmed by responsibilities, or disconnected from the magic you once believed in, this episode is your wake-up call. Ashley shares her remarkable journey from opening a day spa with nothing but credit cards and intention, to watching it literally catch on fire, and still trusting it was all happening for her, not to her.

​What You'll Discover:
The Fire That Forged Her Faith
How Ashley's day spa burning down became the catalyst for understanding that everything in life is working for you, and how she used that mindset to build an even more successful business and raise two incredibly confident daughters.​

The Magic Formula for Raising Confident Kids
Ashley's proven 6-Step Magical Formula that she's used to transform the lives of hundreds of children, teens, and families, including techniques for gratitude practices, intention-setting, and emotional regulation that work at any age.​​

Words Are Your Wand
Why the language you use creates your reality, and how one simple shift in how you speak can change everything from your relationships to your child's self-worth. Ashley reveals how she became "the word police" in her home and why it matters more than you think.​

The Morning Routine That Changes Everything
Discover why starting your day at "100 degrees" (as the thermostat, not the thermometer) sets the tone for your entire family, and how even 5-10 minutes can shift your frequency and create lasting change.​

When Your Partner Isn't "Woo"
Ashley opens up about navigating spiritual growth when your spouse isn't on the same path, and why modeling your truth (without forcing it) is the most powerful tool for transformation in any relationship.

Core Values: Your Decision-Making Compass
Learn how understanding your core values, and teaching them to your children, eliminates confusion, builds confidence, and ensures every choice you make aligns with what truly matters most.​

Why 2020 Was the "Best Time" of Her Kids' Lives
While the world fell apart, Ashley's daughters thrived. Hear how intentional parenting and mindset tools turned quarantine into a transformational experience that her teens still say was the best time of their lives.​

The Power of Breadcrumbs
How to recognize and follow the signs the universe is leaving for you, and why trusting your intuition, even when the path seems unclear, always leads you exactly where you need to be.

​Connect With Ashley Gonor:
Email: AshleyGonor@gmail.com
Instagram & Facebook: @AshleyGonor
Podcast: Uncover Your Magic (available everywhere podcasts are found)
Website: AshleyGonor.com​​

In a world where kids face unprecedented pressures from social media, technology, and constant comparison, raising confident children isn't a luxury, it's essential. But here's the secret Ashley reveals: you can't give your children what you don't have yourself.​

This conversation is a permission slip to reclaim your magic, release perfectionism, and step into the parent (and person) you've always wanted to be. Whether you have kids or not, the tools Ashley shares apply to anyone ready to shift their mindset, transform their words, and trust that life is always working for them.

Don't just listen to this episode. Let it recalibrate your reality.

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Karen, Yes, remind me okay to stop saying yes. Remind

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me to finish my sentence before you guys remember no, No,

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remind me to stop saying I don't believe in magic. Okay,

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because the guests we have today just made my limiting beliefs,

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packed their bags and moved to Cleveland. Oh yep. Do

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you ever meet someone who makes you feel like your

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chakras are underachieving?

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Yes?

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Yeah, me too, well on a daily basis. Just so happens.

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I think we may have accidentally manifested to his guest. Oh,

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either that or the universe finally decided that we are

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ready all right, and.

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I like the second second plan option B.

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The problem is I did not expect to question my

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entire reality today. But let me ask you something. What

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if magic, real soul level universe on your side kind

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of magic is actually just waiting for us to believe

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it's possible. That sounds perfect, It does sound perfect, right, perfect? Well,

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today's guest, well, she's been there, she teaches it, and

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she's living proof that it works. This episode might just

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recalibrate your reality. We're gonna be talking about shifting beliefs,

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unlocking your inner power, raising emotionally resilient humans, and maybe

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even discovering why our dreams keep dropping breadcrumbs at our feet.

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It's exciting stuff, it is, Karen. I don't want to

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say this episode might activate your magic, but this episode

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might just activate your mag Yay, the skeptic retosician starts. Now.

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My name is Will and I'm Karen. Unlike Boulder and Scully,

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both want to believe. So we've embarked in a journey

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of discovery.

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We've talked to people deeply entrenched in the spiritual and

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metaphysical world.

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We've thrown ourselves into weird and wonderful experiences. I even

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joined a coven.

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Of witches and wait, you joined a coven.

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Yep, all on the interest of finding something, anything, that

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will prove that there's something beyond this physical.

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Three dimensional world we all live in.

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This is the skeptic metaphysicians. Hey there, I'm Will, Karen.

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So Karen, Yes, you know that what I'm most excited

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to speak to our guest about today.

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No idea?

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How do we in our thirties?

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Wow? So she's a time traveler.

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I love it. Okay, okay, how do we in our forties?

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All right? How do we in our fifties.

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Think for yourself? How do.

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How do we reclaim magic after life's responsibilities have made

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us practical? Or our guest actually lives it, she doesn't

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just teach it. Get ready to be curious, to shift

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and maybe even to see yourself in fresh new ways

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as we welcome actually gone to the show. Welcome Ashley.

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How you doing today?

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Oh? Thank you so much. You both are like a

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breath of fresh air. And just watching your chemistry makes

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my heart like feel so good that there's people out

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there that have these relationships that and I'm sure this

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podcast has like been such a fun like aspect of

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your relationship, has probably added so much humor and lightness

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to your.

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Likely there's no question about it. We are loving doing

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the show specifically because we love doing it together. Sometimes

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Karen can't make it, so I'll have to do it

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on my own. That's nowhere near his fun nowhere.

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But it just comes through, you know, just you bring

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that light and it's you know, when you see people

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that are doing something that's their path, like that they

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didn't realize was going to be their passion, but once

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they start doing it, they're like, oh wow, this is amazing.

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and it's just the chemistry that is, I don't know,

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it's very attractive, like you pull me in when I

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listen to your episodes. We need just authentic authenticity.

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We need you around us all the time. You're recording that, right,

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if only there was a way to record the conversation

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the button. All right, we really appreciate that. Actually, kind Now,

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let's start with the obvious, right, you've got this the

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magic path. What exactly is it and how did it

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first start revealing itself to you?

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Let me can I start a little bit of kind

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of my background just so you understand it?

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Yeah, So in my life, I'm fifty six years old

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and didn't get married untill I was thirty thirty six,

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had my curls at thirty seven and forty. But before that,

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I was always a seeker, always Abraham Hicks, Wayne Dyer,

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Seth All, the Seth material. Of course in miracles, I

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just like knowing there's so much more, and I you know,

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even not knowing, you know, where my path was leading

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the girls and they're in their teenage years and I

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was not. I was lost. I was I didn't have

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a direction. I had probably in my twenties jobs, well,

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maybe we'll get this. I moved to San Diego, I've

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lived in Seattle, I moved to Montana. It was just

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always I was like trying to find my I didn't

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have that intention. So I know that that part of

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it was my path, because everything is always leading you

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to where you're supposed to be. And that's why I

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wanted to kind of lead into this, like my raising

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confidence of magic path and why I know my soul's

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purpose was all part of these breadcrumbs that I picked

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up along the way, and also like meeting Richard, like

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I didn't. I started a day Spa when I was thirty,

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out of nothing, and it was like that moment that

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I started something where I knew that there's magic in life.

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a clue of what to do. And so long story short,

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I opened this day spa and I think that's where

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I'm going to start uncovering my magic. Was when I

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opened a day spa with nothing. A lady was selling

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it and I said, okay, I'm going to do something.

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and ended up meeting her the day and her place flooded.

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in this other suite that was twice her or three

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times her rent. The guy the commercial real estate guy.

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him the story, he said, no commercial real estate guy

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and had no business background, Like I've ran business, you know,

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like entrepreneurs, little things along the way. But this is

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all the magic part because I had full intention so

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open the spa with my with credit cards. Every There

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was no internet, so I don't know how I even

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people were coming to me and doing reiki, breath work,

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sound healing, chigong. This is when I was thirty.

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I think, that's like my dream come true. That's exactly

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what I would love to open up.

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Wow, they were all to me, And I look back

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now at this seeing how it all came. It was

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for a five year time time in my life. But

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it then caught on fire, and it caught on fire

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after I had finally figured out how to get a

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little old couch and some you know, some candles at

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pier one, like try to piece it all together and

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make it look like I knew what I was doing,

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so I put it all together. It caught on fire.

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I knew it was for a reason. I knew the

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angels were on my team, and I knew they were

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gonna this was for me because I always believed that

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everything in my life was for me. Well, I just

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bought a house up the street with no money down.

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and I bought it when you could buy it with

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no money down. That was like in the two thousand

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and one it was like, I'm just going to buy

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a house. I just bought a spa with nothing, so

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why not buy a house, right? So I had to

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shut down my spa. I hired a girl to sit

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in my house and we brought the phones to the

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like that she was still answering, like pretending that we

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were at the spa. And I got to go all

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my insurance money because I had no money, I had insurance,

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so I got brand new equipment. I got to open

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the guy had to get the whole place. So I

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got like three new rooms that I could add more

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massages and facials to I bring more income in and

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I got a new place. So when nothing I had,

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so I got money. Along these months of them renovating it,

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and everyone kept saying, don't quit, Ashley, don't let I said,

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that wasn't even in my mind. I was just like

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I am just going to keep moving forward.

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And so actually trying to interrupt. But when you said

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it caught fire, like it literally caught on fire. Oh yeah,

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I thought it like when Gangbusters. I was like, oh yeah,

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I did a great job, but no, it actually caught

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on fire.

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heard the sirens and I was at sushi with a

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friend and I said, oh my gosh, I have to

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go to the SPA because there's a fire. And I

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literally had just bought that house with nothing, and I

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was like in this moment of like, Okay, I've finally

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got a business, I have this house, and now it's

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on fire, and I really can go back to that

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moment and I know that where I was at that

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stage of my life, it was I know that this

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is for a higher reason. I know that that was

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for for me for sure, Like I always that's my

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motto in this house is to especially raising the girls

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their whole life. Like I don't know why that's for you,

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but that was one of my biggest examples in your

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life where you think, oh my gosh, people would just

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shut down and say forget it.

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Yeah, that would have been the last time I burned

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in sense in that place.

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one of those popsicle sticks that yeah, oh my god.

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understanding of knowing that you know in your life that

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you pick the breadcrumbs up, you follow your you know,

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you surrender and trust and know that it's all leading

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you to what you're supposed to be doing. And I

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realize that at that part of my life. And yeah,

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and then I had a baby, sold the spa. Best thing.

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I was like, this lady came into me and said,

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you don't want to have a baby and a spa and.

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I sell it to me. I'll take it. Oh no, man,

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not the spa, the baby right way. Right.

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So then I just started to become a mom and

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I had all that background and intentional parenting was I

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think the gift that I had to wait that long

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was my experience in life and in my twenties and

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you know, learning about you know, how zero to seven

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for children is this big time of their life to

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you know, be intentional and know that you're programming them

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and every day, Like we started our gratitude when they

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were drawing stick figures in the car and I just said,

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just find something to be, just draw something. So that's

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kind of how I led up to you can I

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can stop there, But that's kind of what the last

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pages of nineteen. But up until twenty twenty, you know,

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full time, always mom was my first priority, and I

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made that my I was grateful that I was able

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to have that be my first time, my only thing

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that I focused on, and that intentional parenting. You don't

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realize it while you're planting seeds when they're little, but

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you keep planning and planning, and then all of a

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sudden they're teenagers and you're like, oh my gosh, it's growing,

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it's blooming. They listened that, they're talking the way like

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you talked.

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Anyway, How did how did that come to you? How

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did you learn to be present or to surrender, to

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allow the universe to take you where you needed to go.

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Most of us are no, no, if it's not this way,

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he can't that can't work that way.

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reaction to the place punning down be like great, one

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more thing, or why me? Or forget it, I'm done.

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So were your parents active in raising you consciously?

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So you just were more connected.

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I was more connected. And I look back now knowing

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what I know, like just even interviewing for five years

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of people and going deep dive and spend such an

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amazing expand of experience understanding like you know, we all

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come in a different phase in our soul's journey. And

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I look at my parents and know that I pick

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them for whatever you know, for this growth in this body,

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with this little fractal of my soul in this body,

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and I'm here to expand and transform and grow as

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much as I can. And I know I chose them

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for that reason. And so now when you realize that,

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you look back at your life and you say, okay,

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you know I always am like change your story, change

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your life kind of person. I'm not the I don't

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dwell in the victim mode, and it's hard for me

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when I have clients that talk about their story and

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it's when they were you know, all these try and

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I understand that and people have to work through that.

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But I'm very in my life. There's things that I

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looked back at and thought, you know, that was that

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was for a reason I had to that was that

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they did that for me, you know that I had

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to learn that. Yeah. So yeah, then growing and you know,

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I have people from you know, high school or something,

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we'll say, I remember you used to tell me you'd

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send me I AM statements and it's those kind of

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things that I don't think I was aware of that

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I was doing, but I was always listening. My dad

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had Wayne Dyer books, so that was always when you

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believe it, you'll see it type books. I remember that

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being one of the first ones that he had on

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his shelf. But no, for the most part, I was

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the oldest child if three girls, and I was kind

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of the mom figure for everybody. I was kind of

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very independent, and I it's funny when you look back

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and see why you've chose those parents, because it made

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me be super independent. You know, like forced me to

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know what to do. And I look at my girls

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and I do the like I'm like, oh can I

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I want to do something for them, But I'm like, oh,

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then you see, well I had nothing. I had to

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figure it out on my own. So there's a there's

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definitely yeah, I get that as well. It's very similar.

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we were the Latin kid Yeah, the feral generation, and

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we fended for ourselves and half the stuff that we did,

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there's no way I would feel comfortable with her, right,

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Oh my gosh, you know, but we all survived and

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came out stronger.

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Yeah, but I wonder how much of that was because

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we started so much earlier. What do you mean, like

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we were latch key kids when from the time we

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were little seven and eight. So if our daughter Sienna

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would would now at fourteen, we say, okay, figure it

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out on your own, she might kind of waffle around

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a little.

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Bit because what's happening, Yeah.

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Unfortunately, but so figure it right? Yeah, okay. So then

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those moments that led you from one step to the next,

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that taught you that everything was happening for you, is

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that the kind of magic that you're talking about having

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people experience through that program.

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Yes, so I created So the podcast came in twenty

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twenty in a intuitive download. It just said you need

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to start a podcast, and that was in March.

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And we should mention that your podcast is Uncover Your Magic.

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Yes, And I will still remember the day that I

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had to figure out a name for the podcast because

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I didn't know who I was going to interview. I

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don't know why some god was telling me to do

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a podcast. I had no clue.

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And it's a it's a wonderful podcast, very well, highly

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highly regarded. I've been doing it for a while. I

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listened to it. I love it. So I think you

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were supposed to do it for me? No, okay, well

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maybe maybe for.

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You and all the other people in that's right, like me.

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So sorry I interrupted you, but so you did no

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so podcast.

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Yeah. So the beginning of twenty twenty, the girls were

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in fifth and eighth grade, and so I was deep

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in driving and you know, that was our routine. And

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I remember going to taking this like a little master class,

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saying this woman was going to teach how to do

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a podcast in six weeks, and I signed up in

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the next morning. Richard's like, you signed up for a

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class for a podcast, Like you don't even have time

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to fold the clothes or you know, like before you

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go back to pick the girls up at for school.

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thing where I have to I'm going to do this,

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and it was are you going to start it? And

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then you're not going to finish it? And I just

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I don't like to be that because I can see

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there's been truth in that while I was raising kids,

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but I'd want to do something because I was very

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you know, loved entrepreneur stuff. And then I'm like, I can't.

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I have this is my responsibility. So I would kind

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of go in the background. So I'm like, no, you

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know what, I'm gonna prove them wrong. Well, like two

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days after that, when I was I didn't have a laptop.

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I had my phone because my laptop died. I never

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needed one anyway, I'd use the girls, you know, when

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they were home if I needed it, and I knew

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I needed to have a laptop for this podcast class.

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So two days later, I get a call from the

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school and they said, you need to come pick up

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your children. We're in quarantine for two weeks. So I said, oh,

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I have two weeks to get use their computers, and

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now I can I can really go go in deep.

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I don't want to be driving them back to school and

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you know, so I have time, so you know how

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that goes. It definitely was longer than two weeks, so

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I really sove in and just felt, you know, this

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technical part of it was like, you know, not my

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cup of tea, and but I figured it out and

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started wondering who I was going to interview or who

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was going to show up and what I was going

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to call it. But I'm like everyone has magic, Like

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we all have magic. I'm just going to uncover people's magic.

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So we'll just who cares who comes on because I

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know they'll have magic for me to uncover.

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Right, that's awesome.

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So I just so it's so fun. And I know

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you have like over three hundred episodes already. I'm almost

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at three hundred, but I haven't missed a week, and

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I do it once once every Tuesday, an episode goes out.

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But when I look at that journey in those almost

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three hundred episodes, my growth, it's almost like writing a

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book because you can kind of see like I was

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interested in that, like oh, and then I went to

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this thing and I'm like, oh now I'm like I'm

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into past life regressions, and then I'm into the aliens

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and you know, just it just keeps adding on to

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where you are, folks, Like what lights you up? Because

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that's kind of if it's not a full body yes

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for me for a guest, and I'm not ready to

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learn that. I don't it doesn't even come into my awareness, right, you.

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Know, yeah, as opposed to me where mar show has

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been like so versus this, and there's this, and there's this,

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and there's this and there's this. It's such a mess.

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It perfectly mirrors my mind. The way it works.

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It's like a beautiful Coli discoce.

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It is, oh, look a squirrel, like that's exactly.

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Right.

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But we've had that, we've had we've learned, like you,

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a awful lot, and I would say.

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And we've changed a lot too.

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I would say we're not the same people we were

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when we first started the show, for sure.

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Yeah, it isn't that fun to look back.

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Absolutely now you've worked with both teens and adults, right, Yes,

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do you find that adults are just kids with more baggage,

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or are they a very specific different entity that you

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have to deal with in a different way.

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Yeah, I mean you can say that. You know. It

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was after the podcast started going I had it was

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twenty twenty, and all these people were reaching out, you

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need to help my kid. Because I was doing the

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first few episodes. They of the teacher was saying, just

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start doing solos and I said, I don't know what

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I'm going to talk about. They said, well, what if

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people say you're good at and I said, well, parenting.

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They start talking about parenting. So I started talking the

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first two or three episodes, and I started getting Chicago, Florida,

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These parents saying can you help my kid? Can you

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help my kid? Can you help my kid? And I'm

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like really, And so then I had a line of

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kids coming to my dining room and I was just

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teaching them what I taught, you know, like my kids

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their whole life, that's all. I was like, Well, I

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do gratitude, intentions, compliments, you know, all the little things

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these tips that I could help them kind of go

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through this quarantine and not being at school. So then

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it was can you help me as a parent because

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I don't know how to parent without the tool. I

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need you to help me know how to be at

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home when you're not on zoom with my child. Right,

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So at first I was going to do it for

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the parents, and then they're like, no, I want you

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to just do my kid. I don't care. And then

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it was then they were like, now that my child is,

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you know, being like creating this energy in our home

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and it's changing our frequency and my husband doesn't know

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what's happening, and breakfast is amazing, and you know, the

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morning ride to school is so different. They need to

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we need to be on the same page because our

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children are at this level now because what you've been

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teaching them. So then I started helping the parents. But

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there's this thing with the when I say parenting, like

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why the parents are at a different They're definitely at

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a different frequency than the children. And you know, because

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of your daughter, Like they come in this world when

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the vibration of the earth is completely different than when

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we were here, so they're already at a different place

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and the parents have already done what their parents did

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and they're on their little rabbit hole and or they're

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on their like hamster wheels, and you know it's like

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they just think this is how it's supposed to be.

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Well when they see that, especially for a twenty twenty experience,

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for having a child, and you know, those whole thing

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stops you know everything, you know, Wow, Like that's such

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a wake up call. My girls call it the best

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time of their life. So when I would start talking

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about that on the podcast, because that was the beginning,

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that's where people are like your kids, I said, oh

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my gosh, this is the best time of their life.

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And they will still if I interview them today, they

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would say that was the best time of our life.

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Wow.

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But it was because of how the tools. Even at

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fifth and eighth grade, I had told them that everything

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is for you. So what is magic in this twenty

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twenty thing? Like why are we not going to school?

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Why are we not going to practice? Why are we

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not going to the you know all the things like

451
00:22:50.880 --> 00:22:53.480
and let's find what it likes? How exciting? Like this

452
00:22:53.599 --> 00:22:55.720
is going to be like cool to find out why

453
00:22:55.960 --> 00:22:59.200
and what it's going to do for us. So so

454
00:22:59.200 --> 00:23:01.920
so going back to the adults versus the kids, I

455
00:23:02.039 --> 00:23:05.680
just you need a when you can't just be I mean,

456
00:23:05.720 --> 00:23:08.559
I know, in a relationship, if you're not growing together,

457
00:23:09.240 --> 00:23:12.279
it kind of like there's a frick. There's some kind

458
00:23:12.279 --> 00:23:16.599
of off energy in a home. So it's like the

459
00:23:16.720 --> 00:23:19.119
parents needed to get on board, and they were the

460
00:23:19.160 --> 00:23:21.319
ones that came to me, and that was what was

461
00:23:21.400 --> 00:23:25.119
really neat because they started seeing like, we're not on

462
00:23:25.319 --> 00:23:27.240
we're not we don't come home, and we're not in

463
00:23:27.240 --> 00:23:29.440
the four corners of the house. Now we're all together.

464
00:23:30.039 --> 00:23:32.200
And because I always would talk to the children about

465
00:23:32.200 --> 00:23:34.599
how important like the phones. I mean, I'm a big

466
00:23:35.200 --> 00:23:41.200
phone police put down, and at that time, you know,

467
00:23:41.240 --> 00:23:43.519
the kids, that was what all they had is access

468
00:23:43.559 --> 00:23:46.400
to their phones or their computers for any kind of

469
00:23:46.400 --> 00:23:49.400
social you know things if they were old enough to

470
00:23:49.440 --> 00:23:52.640
have one, and my girls didn't have one. Maybe Paige

471
00:23:52.680 --> 00:23:54.680
had one at eighth grade. I'm sure she did, but

472
00:23:54.759 --> 00:23:58.599
Presley hadn't had one yet. So so dealing with parents

473
00:23:59.599 --> 00:24:03.359
watching how important it is for the interaction and the

474
00:24:03.480 --> 00:24:06.599
children leading that after and they're going, you're not going

475
00:24:06.599 --> 00:24:09.319
to play your video game. No, Ashley told me, like,

476
00:24:09.400 --> 00:24:12.559
we're going to be present and be in the moment

477
00:24:12.880 --> 00:24:18.480
and enjoy the family, you know, dynamic versus we all

478
00:24:18.519 --> 00:24:20.200
go to our four core. I remember this. I had

479
00:24:20.319 --> 00:24:23.839
this whole entire family in Georgia. I did the husband,

480
00:24:23.880 --> 00:24:27.079
the mother, and the two children. The husband and wife

481
00:24:27.160 --> 00:24:30.960
were getting ready to get a divorce, and she was

482
00:24:31.000 --> 00:24:33.440
a realtter of my friend that I actually helped with

483
00:24:33.480 --> 00:24:36.039
that listened to the podcast. She's like, I think you

484
00:24:36.039 --> 00:24:38.200
should help my real litter with their family. So I

485
00:24:38.279 --> 00:24:41.279
ended up signing all the four all the four family

486
00:24:41.319 --> 00:24:45.720
members up and individually working with each one on a

487
00:24:45.799 --> 00:24:50.599
zoom call, but understanding, you know, the dynamic of parenting

488
00:24:51.160 --> 00:24:55.039
and where they're at versus working. I don't know, it's

489
00:24:55.079 --> 00:24:57.000
like working as a team or seeing life in a

490
00:24:57.000 --> 00:24:59.039
different It was so cool to see that light bulbs

491
00:24:59.240 --> 00:25:01.960
go off, and I'm thinking, gosh, if all the parents

492
00:25:02.039 --> 00:25:06.519
could get it and be in that place of being

493
00:25:06.599 --> 00:25:09.680
the because they do what you do now what you say, right,

494
00:25:10.039 --> 00:25:13.480
So they have you have to be that example and

495
00:25:13.519 --> 00:25:16.079
when you and your husband are not being that example,

496
00:25:17.200 --> 00:25:20.359
there that's all they know. So it's like that's a

497
00:25:20.400 --> 00:25:23.440
preview of their life. I mean, it's well there, it's

498
00:25:23.480 --> 00:25:25.680
like the magic wand right, Well, see what dad and

499
00:25:25.720 --> 00:25:27.759
I are doing? Well, guess what you're gonna do unless

500
00:25:27.759 --> 00:25:29.799
you figure it out right, you know.

501
00:25:31.039 --> 00:25:36.160
So then how does because I mean, I'll be the

502
00:25:36.200 --> 00:25:39.440
I'll be the first to admit I'm very much a

503
00:25:39.680 --> 00:25:42.440
do what I say, now what I do kind of father.

504
00:25:42.680 --> 00:25:44.599
As much as I hate to be that way. We

505
00:25:44.640 --> 00:25:46.079
talk all the time. Don't be on your phone, and

506
00:25:46.160 --> 00:25:48.920
yet here we are, I'm always on our phone if

507
00:25:48.920 --> 00:25:52.759
we're sitting in our living room together. We want her

508
00:25:52.839 --> 00:25:56.359
to be a part of the family. But yet we

509
00:25:56.400 --> 00:25:59.039
are working all the time on our laptops because we've

510
00:25:59.039 --> 00:26:03.640
got this new business. So how does someone how do

511
00:26:03.720 --> 00:26:10.319
we capture how do we capture that magic? Because in

512
00:26:10.440 --> 00:26:13.519
this day and age, when you're trying to make that

513
00:26:13.559 --> 00:26:18.119
three D world work, we've heard all that that everything's

514
00:26:18.160 --> 00:26:23.599
working for you, not to you. We buy all that

515
00:26:23.640 --> 00:26:28.519
stuff here intellectually, but it's a much more difficult thing

516
00:26:28.559 --> 00:26:33.160
to implement, and it sounds like you're much more adept

517
00:26:33.319 --> 00:26:37.160
at living it. So how does someone that is stuck

518
00:26:37.240 --> 00:26:40.920
in the intellect take the leap into making that be

519
00:26:41.119 --> 00:26:43.119
who they are as a person?

520
00:26:44.240 --> 00:26:47.000
You know, what comes to my mind first is really

521
00:26:47.799 --> 00:26:51.960
creating like a routine, a morning routine, being intentional, and

522
00:26:52.000 --> 00:26:54.039
that is really one of the first things I teach

523
00:26:55.039 --> 00:26:59.680
in my classes, both parents and the children, and understanding

524
00:27:00.119 --> 00:27:04.119
how important it is to regulate your body, regulate your vibration.

525
00:27:04.400 --> 00:27:09.319
Start be the I always say, be the thermostat instead

526
00:27:09.319 --> 00:27:11.519
of the you know, trying to get to that next

527
00:27:11.599 --> 00:27:14.400
you know, go to start at one hundred. And then

528
00:27:14.480 --> 00:27:17.119
when you start your day, then everyone's going to go, well,

529
00:27:17.119 --> 00:27:19.400
what they do, because I need to get to the hundred.

530
00:27:19.920 --> 00:27:22.160
But if you start at sixty and you haven't done

531
00:27:22.279 --> 00:27:25.720
your whole thing before you started the day, it's going

532
00:27:25.759 --> 00:27:28.319
to take a lot of prop a lot of effort

533
00:27:28.440 --> 00:27:32.000
to get to that one hundred. So I've always shown

534
00:27:32.039 --> 00:27:35.240
the girls they've and I don't mean it like bragging,

535
00:27:35.400 --> 00:27:38.480
but it's so that's so important to me to begin

536
00:27:38.559 --> 00:27:42.400
the day on that in that frequency and that vibration

537
00:27:42.640 --> 00:27:47.799
and that intention and the gratitude and whatever you can

538
00:27:48.079 --> 00:27:50.160
even if it's ten minutes, it doesn't even have to

539
00:27:50.160 --> 00:27:54.720
be five minutes. But even that little intention is with

540
00:27:54.759 --> 00:27:59.039
a family, is showing that I care about how I

541
00:27:59.079 --> 00:28:01.799
show up in the world. I care about, you know,

542
00:28:01.880 --> 00:28:04.319
who I am with my family and what i'm you know,

543
00:28:04.400 --> 00:28:07.559
like whatever's going on inside of you is basically your

544
00:28:07.920 --> 00:28:11.799
your reality, right, You're okay, well all the if you're

545
00:28:11.799 --> 00:28:13.960
going to get in a fight, well you're something's going

546
00:28:14.000 --> 00:28:17.960
on inside of you because you wouldn't have done anything negatively.

547
00:28:18.200 --> 00:28:20.079
You started at one hundred and you did your three

548
00:28:20.160 --> 00:28:25.960
minute whatever you did. But with families that are you know,

549
00:28:26.160 --> 00:28:29.000
don't that they say to do through certain things like

550
00:28:29.039 --> 00:28:30.960
don't be on your phone, and then the parents are

551
00:28:31.039 --> 00:28:33.559
and their their heads are down and they're not listening,

552
00:28:33.680 --> 00:28:36.119
or you know, you can go to many restaurants and

553
00:28:36.160 --> 00:28:38.079
watch the kids on the phone and the parents are

554
00:28:38.079 --> 00:28:40.400
doing the same thing. And I'm like, oh, you know,

555
00:28:40.559 --> 00:28:43.480
like I always look, I am so in the present

556
00:28:43.559 --> 00:28:46.200
moment and I look at then I show the girls.

557
00:28:46.240 --> 00:28:47.960
I'm like, you know, these days are going to be

558
00:28:48.119 --> 00:28:50.200
We're not going to have these days. Like I'm already

559
00:28:50.279 --> 00:28:52.759
seeing that, you know, Presley the junior in high school

560
00:28:52.799 --> 00:28:55.920
and you know now pages in college. Those days are over,

561
00:28:56.839 --> 00:29:00.160
you know, our everyday family dinners. It's like and I

562
00:29:00.200 --> 00:29:03.400
knew that, so I always with my classes and my

563
00:29:03.519 --> 00:29:07.079
parents and like, just remember you're gonna you don't there's

564
00:29:07.079 --> 00:29:09.400
no regrets in parenting, Like you don't want to have

565
00:29:09.480 --> 00:29:11.599
the oh I wish I was more present, or I

566
00:29:11.680 --> 00:29:14.880
wish we sat and had this amazing conversation at dinner.

567
00:29:14.920 --> 00:29:18.200
I wish we started our mornings with gratitude and you know,

568
00:29:18.519 --> 00:29:22.799
giving compliments and starting that being that that hundred degree

569
00:29:22.920 --> 00:29:26.160
mark on the thermostat Those are the things that you

570
00:29:26.200 --> 00:29:29.319
can never take back, right Like in life, you always

571
00:29:29.319 --> 00:29:31.920
want to look back and go, oh, I'm so grateful

572
00:29:32.000 --> 00:29:35.680
that we were so intentional. We were the example because

573
00:29:36.759 --> 00:29:40.599
they're basically going to repeat unless they have some awakening,

574
00:29:41.039 --> 00:29:43.920
right right, right, So how do you.

575
00:29:43.920 --> 00:29:47.039
Handle a family where you know, well you hear about

576
00:29:47.039 --> 00:29:50.640
it today like with politics, you know, one's spouse's red,

577
00:29:50.640 --> 00:29:52.880
one's spouse is blue, you know, and I can create

578
00:29:52.920 --> 00:29:54.759
problems or they can make it through. So we know

579
00:29:54.839 --> 00:29:57.880
that in this kind of more metaphysical spiritual space, there

580
00:29:57.880 --> 00:30:00.160
are a lot of families where there's someone who in

581
00:30:00.200 --> 00:30:02.240
the wound, someone who thinks it's a bunch of hohoha.

582
00:30:03.000 --> 00:30:07.680
So how would you help someone who wants to start,

583
00:30:07.920 --> 00:30:10.680
you know, being this way more with their family when

584
00:30:10.680 --> 00:30:13.319
there's like maybe the mother or the father figure like

585
00:30:13.359 --> 00:30:15.240
a big role that doesn't believe in this.

586
00:30:17.039 --> 00:30:18.799
We need to take a quick pause, but would be

587
00:30:18.880 --> 00:30:20.400
right back right after these messages.

588
00:30:24.599 --> 00:30:29.640
How would you help someone who wants to start, you know,

589
00:30:29.799 --> 00:30:32.559
being this way more with their family when there's like

590
00:30:32.640 --> 00:30:34.960
maybe the mother or the father figure, like a big

591
00:30:35.039 --> 00:30:36.599
role that doesn't believe in this.

592
00:30:37.240 --> 00:30:41.079
Yeah, So it's that's I'm so glad you asked that question,

593
00:30:41.160 --> 00:30:45.880
because Richard, when I met him, he's come a long way.

594
00:30:47.960 --> 00:30:50.480
It's not because I want him to come a long way.

595
00:30:50.799 --> 00:30:53.039
It's not because I've always said I wish you were

596
00:30:53.160 --> 00:30:56.200
like me. It's not like I've said you need to

597
00:30:56.200 --> 00:31:00.440
go read this book or take this class. Never done that.

598
00:31:00.880 --> 00:31:04.440
I've been who I am and I've done, and I

599
00:31:04.480 --> 00:31:07.160
know I'm on my journey and I know he's on

600
00:31:07.200 --> 00:31:10.160
his journey. The girls have never seen us fight. And

601
00:31:10.200 --> 00:31:14.359
I will say to you, it's because you know, at

602
00:31:14.359 --> 00:31:16.880
the beginning, you know, when you have your first babies

603
00:31:16.920 --> 00:31:18.599
and it's like all this new stuff and you're like,

604
00:31:18.599 --> 00:31:20.880
oh my god, those were like tense times right where

605
00:31:20.880 --> 00:31:23.000
you're trying to figure out how to you know, handle

606
00:31:23.319 --> 00:31:27.200
these children and your marriage and you know, all the things.

607
00:31:27.240 --> 00:31:29.559
But as we got as I got, let's say we

608
00:31:29.640 --> 00:31:32.000
get up to like twenty twenty, just for an example,

609
00:31:32.119 --> 00:31:36.240
like leading up to that, I learned my whole life,

610
00:31:36.279 --> 00:31:41.200
like you know, he knowing that we are together and

611
00:31:41.240 --> 00:31:44.000
that I have a family, that these girls are gonna,

612
00:31:44.480 --> 00:31:46.319
you know, once have a family too and have a

613
00:31:46.440 --> 00:31:52.079
husband he's gonna be They picked him to be their dad,

614
00:31:52.079 --> 00:31:56.640
and I believe that, and they chose me, and you know,

615
00:31:56.759 --> 00:31:59.960
a lot of things had to happen before the grandparents,

616
00:32:00.119 --> 00:32:03.319
the you know, many things had to come together before

617
00:32:03.400 --> 00:32:06.799
we were going to be this family. And I just

618
00:32:06.920 --> 00:32:09.359
know that when I lived my life in my woo

619
00:32:09.359 --> 00:32:11.720
woo and I've always done that. So he met me

620
00:32:11.799 --> 00:32:14.519
that way. So it wasn't that he could have turned

621
00:32:14.519 --> 00:32:17.759
his head and said, you know, I'm Catholic. You need

622
00:32:17.759 --> 00:32:20.079
to come and kneel and do all these things. Well,

623
00:32:21.119 --> 00:32:23.640
that's just not who I am. I don't you want

624
00:32:23.680 --> 00:32:26.039
to and I would go with you, but that's not

625
00:32:26.200 --> 00:32:30.440
my thing, and I would support that. So that's kind

626
00:32:30.440 --> 00:32:33.319
of how I look at because the parent the family

627
00:32:33.359 --> 00:32:35.880
that I mentioned earlier at Georgia, the husband was on

628
00:32:35.920 --> 00:32:38.799
a different page and the wife was too. But to

629
00:32:38.880 --> 00:32:42.200
bring it as a understanding that we all are on

630
00:32:42.240 --> 00:32:47.119
our own path, our souls are completely we're all part

631
00:32:47.160 --> 00:32:51.079
of one. We're all connected, right, But when you realize

632
00:32:51.119 --> 00:32:54.119
like any trigger or any is all I was within me,

633
00:32:54.960 --> 00:32:57.319
you know, or you know when you're looking at each

634
00:32:57.319 --> 00:32:59.759
other and oh, that's driving me crazy, Like, well, why

635
00:32:59.839 --> 00:33:01.440
is because it has to be in me or it

636
00:33:01.480 --> 00:33:05.759
wouldn't drive me crazy having that awareness and having that like,

637
00:33:06.240 --> 00:33:09.079
you know, looking at it from a higher perspective and

638
00:33:09.160 --> 00:33:11.400
showing like the girls would say, Mom, that would drive

639
00:33:11.440 --> 00:33:13.640
me crazy if Dad did that, Like, doesn't that drive

640
00:33:13.680 --> 00:33:17.839
you crazy? And I said, actually it doesn't. Like that's him, honey,

641
00:33:17.920 --> 00:33:21.000
Like that's who he is, and I don't. And it's

642
00:33:21.240 --> 00:33:23.200
so nice to live that way. And I think a

643
00:33:23.200 --> 00:33:27.559
lot of disease comes from that place of thinking that

644
00:33:27.599 --> 00:33:29.559
person has to be some way for me to be

645
00:33:29.640 --> 00:33:32.720
with them, or you know, I have to be in this,

646
00:33:33.680 --> 00:33:36.319
you know, whatever situation in order for it to make

647
00:33:36.400 --> 00:33:39.279
me happy. No, And I just that's kind of how

648
00:33:39.319 --> 00:33:40.400
does that answer the question?

649
00:33:42.039 --> 00:33:42.359
I think?

650
00:33:42.440 --> 00:33:43.359
So.

651
00:33:43.359 --> 00:33:46.640
So it's kind of like you are living your life

652
00:33:47.279 --> 00:33:49.839
and it's you have this person who might not necessarily

653
00:33:49.880 --> 00:33:51.920
believe the same things, but they see you living your

654
00:33:51.960 --> 00:33:54.039
life and the results of how you're living your life

655
00:33:54.079 --> 00:33:56.720
and how people are reacting to you, and you're reacting

656
00:33:56.759 --> 00:33:59.200
to them, and a little bit of osmosis and maybe

657
00:33:59.200 --> 00:34:02.359
it kind of saws the angles of the differences.

658
00:34:02.440 --> 00:34:04.440
Yeah, it's like it's like what she was talking about

659
00:34:04.440 --> 00:34:08.760
with the kids too, she's modeling, and so eventually he sees, well, wow,

660
00:34:08.840 --> 00:34:12.920
look at this amazing person and she's not getting triggered,

661
00:34:12.960 --> 00:34:15.639
and I want some of that, you know, at least

662
00:34:15.639 --> 00:34:17.599
I know that's what's happened to me with you anyway,

663
00:34:17.639 --> 00:34:25.039
Because yeah, but and it's a such a great thought process.

664
00:34:25.239 --> 00:34:30.159
It's such a great way to live, but so much

665
00:34:30.280 --> 00:34:34.000
harder to actually do. You found your way there, but

666
00:34:34.280 --> 00:34:37.159
how can someone like me who wants to be there

667
00:34:37.280 --> 00:34:40.719
very badly but is constantly losing sight of the ball,

668
00:34:43.079 --> 00:34:45.880
other than setting your morning routine, which I totally understand

669
00:34:45.920 --> 00:34:49.199
because I do the same thing. My morning routine is sacrocyanct,

670
00:34:49.280 --> 00:34:52.599
and it's it throws me off completely, which is actually

671
00:34:52.599 --> 00:34:54.760
probably not good. If I get thrown off of my

672
00:34:54.760 --> 00:34:57.400
morning routine is probably not good, but it happens. So

673
00:34:58.800 --> 00:35:02.480
any tips you can give to for people to find

674
00:35:02.519 --> 00:35:04.800
their way to where you are at some point in

675
00:35:04.800 --> 00:35:06.480
the future or no, it's takes some work, but.

676
00:35:07.320 --> 00:35:10.599
Well, First of all, you've used hard the words you'd

677
00:35:10.760 --> 00:35:14.599
use right, those are your that's your power. Your words

678
00:35:14.679 --> 00:35:18.000
create your life. Like it's just words are your wand

679
00:35:18.400 --> 00:35:22.119
and I always I am the word police. And when

680
00:35:22.199 --> 00:35:25.719
you start talking about you know, I'm this kind of person,

681
00:35:25.760 --> 00:35:28.559
it's hard for me to do that. Okay, well there

682
00:35:28.599 --> 00:35:28.920
you go.

683
00:35:30.199 --> 00:35:32.159
So I'm creating my own beis.

684
00:35:32.280 --> 00:35:35.559
Yes, you're creating your life with your words and your thoughts.

685
00:35:36.840 --> 00:35:39.480
So when you realize that and you can start to

686
00:35:39.880 --> 00:35:43.639
like in this family, I don't know, Abraham Hicks, you

687
00:35:43.760 --> 00:35:47.400
used to listen to them, so in my before children time,

688
00:35:47.800 --> 00:35:51.800
you know, I'm very sensitive to words and things people say.

689
00:35:52.519 --> 00:35:55.800
So if they're going to talk about their their sadness

690
00:35:55.880 --> 00:35:59.320
or their illness or you know, their problems, I'm like, okay,

691
00:35:59.360 --> 00:36:04.440
well there you go, your wishes, your command, whatever you

692
00:36:04.519 --> 00:36:08.079
want to say, those words that speak right. So when

693
00:36:08.159 --> 00:36:11.320
you hear people speaking in this house, they it's always

694
00:36:11.360 --> 00:36:13.840
at the beginning, when the girls are little, I'd be canceled.

695
00:36:13.840 --> 00:36:16.559
That cancel it quick, Abraham Higgsason.

696
00:36:16.360 --> 00:36:19.119
That cancel cancer, like get it out, qut it.

697
00:36:19.000 --> 00:36:21.880
You know, stop it, stop the energy, because you're creating that.

698
00:36:22.960 --> 00:36:26.440
So it's like being in a in a relationship, in

699
00:36:26.480 --> 00:36:31.039
a friendship, with being a parent and talking. I can

700
00:36:31.079 --> 00:36:34.599
see parents that say, you know, words that are like

701
00:36:35.239 --> 00:36:38.039
depressing or whatever, and it's just like that's what the

702
00:36:38.119 --> 00:36:40.400
kids are. It's like the energy the thermostat goes from

703
00:36:40.400 --> 00:36:43.239
one hundred to zero, you know, and to have it's

704
00:36:43.280 --> 00:36:45.599
just having an awareness, you know, it's creating a muscle.

705
00:36:46.119 --> 00:36:49.480
And I think having that awareness. And you know, in

706
00:36:49.519 --> 00:36:52.960
our lifetime, you know how we're you know, halfway there,

707
00:36:53.079 --> 00:36:56.119
whatever way it is, unless we start having anti aging

708
00:36:56.159 --> 00:36:57.880
and we're going to live till where two hundred.

709
00:36:57.920 --> 00:36:58.920
I mean we are, are we?

710
00:36:59.800 --> 00:37:02.280
Yeah? Yeah? But you know you think you know. I

711
00:37:02.320 --> 00:37:04.760
just was telling Will that I was at this seminar

712
00:37:04.840 --> 00:37:08.840
this weekend with all these amazing people that you've interviewed,

713
00:37:09.559 --> 00:37:13.400
and you're in that in that energy of speakers and

714
00:37:13.840 --> 00:37:19.880
energy healers and you know, light language and darryl Anka

715
00:37:20.119 --> 00:37:23.840
with Bishar all these people that you realize that the

716
00:37:23.880 --> 00:37:28.280
frequency of that experience is where you start your day.

717
00:37:28.320 --> 00:37:30.199
In the last two days, I came home, you know,

718
00:37:30.320 --> 00:37:33.199
last night, and I start my day to day. I realize,

719
00:37:33.199 --> 00:37:36.000
like wow, like I look at the when I'm on

720
00:37:36.079 --> 00:37:38.480
my walk with my dogs this morning. It's like, oh

721
00:37:38.519 --> 00:37:42.920
my gosh. It's like you realize how important that frequency

722
00:37:43.039 --> 00:37:45.719
is in your life and the vibration that you start with.

723
00:37:46.119 --> 00:37:48.119
But when you and when you're in a group of

724
00:37:48.679 --> 00:37:52.960
for a weekend retreat or whatever, you see it differently.

725
00:37:53.119 --> 00:37:54.840
So now you come out of it in your life

726
00:37:54.880 --> 00:37:57.880
and you're looking at it in a different perspective. But

727
00:37:57.960 --> 00:38:02.159
it's so important to really lies that I am I

728
00:38:02.480 --> 00:38:05.440
staying with my because people can go like I've gone

729
00:38:05.440 --> 00:38:07.599
to Tony Robbins like in the in the day and

730
00:38:07.880 --> 00:38:09.559
you know, you get raw raw raw, and you're all

731
00:38:09.599 --> 00:38:12.159
excited and you're ready to start the world on fire.

732
00:38:12.199 --> 00:38:13.679
And then you go home and you're like, oh, well

733
00:38:13.679 --> 00:38:15.559
that was amazing there, but what am I going to

734
00:38:15.639 --> 00:38:22.159
do now? Yeah? But it's just that intention, that awareness

735
00:38:22.679 --> 00:38:26.079
that if it's important enough to you where you know

736
00:38:26.159 --> 00:38:29.440
that you're like my family was the girls, raising them

737
00:38:29.480 --> 00:38:33.039
with those mindset tools was so important. It was like

738
00:38:33.079 --> 00:38:35.480
you just you can tell your values right, like I

739
00:38:35.519 --> 00:38:37.199
always say to the girls. In fact, one of the

740
00:38:37.239 --> 00:38:40.679
programs when part of raising confidence is learning your core

741
00:38:40.760 --> 00:38:44.440
values and understanding that the choices that you make, the

742
00:38:44.480 --> 00:38:48.559
decisions that you make in life are your core values? Like, okay,

743
00:38:48.639 --> 00:38:51.599
family is important, health is portant, Like all the things

744
00:38:51.639 --> 00:38:55.400
that I do reflect my five highest core values. So

745
00:38:55.519 --> 00:38:58.840
having the children all we're all as a family, understanding

746
00:38:59.159 --> 00:39:02.039
they're all change the time, you know, because you have

747
00:39:02.079 --> 00:39:05.199
a family now obviously your family's first, or you're single

748
00:39:05.280 --> 00:39:09.519
and a relationships first. But to understand that all your

749
00:39:09.599 --> 00:39:13.719
choices is all of you know, this the source of

750
00:39:13.760 --> 00:39:17.519
where you're making your choice of your core values. So

751
00:39:18.559 --> 00:39:21.320
it would be to me saying to a parent, well, gosh,

752
00:39:21.360 --> 00:39:23.199
I have to be on my phone and I'm on

753
00:39:23.239 --> 00:39:26.719
my laptop after work. It's hard for me to you know,

754
00:39:26.800 --> 00:39:30.719
be present. Well that's then that's not your value. It's

755
00:39:30.760 --> 00:39:33.400
like that show that in your face, like, well, obviously

756
00:39:34.000 --> 00:39:37.480
I'm not enjoying the present moment. That's not a value

757
00:39:37.519 --> 00:39:42.159
of mine. So being clear as a family with everybody

758
00:39:42.199 --> 00:39:45.199
and what their values are and then you understand. Like

759
00:39:45.280 --> 00:39:48.599
with Richard, you know he's I don't think he's I've

760
00:39:48.639 --> 00:39:50.960
shown him how to do breath work. He's gone to

761
00:39:51.039 --> 00:39:54.679
some like sessions with me and he and he's open

762
00:39:54.719 --> 00:39:57.039
to that. He's gone to my retreats to see but

763
00:39:57.079 --> 00:40:01.719
he doesn't you know, participate or he knows I do

764
00:40:01.800 --> 00:40:05.440
my meditation, he knows how important my automatic writing is.

765
00:40:05.760 --> 00:40:08.960
But that's he doesn't ask me that stuff because that's

766
00:40:09.000 --> 00:40:11.840
not in his He doesn't that's not important, that's not

767
00:40:11.920 --> 00:40:12.480
his value.

768
00:40:12.639 --> 00:40:15.000
Yeah, well, do you think that your values can change?

769
00:40:15.000 --> 00:40:15.079
Like?

770
00:40:15.119 --> 00:40:15.519
Can you?

771
00:40:15.559 --> 00:40:16.000
Can? You?

772
00:40:16.280 --> 00:40:19.119
Because what came to mind as you were talking about was, well,

773
00:40:19.519 --> 00:40:21.280
I think I need to write down exactly what it

774
00:40:21.320 --> 00:40:24.639
is I want to be important to me, right, and

775
00:40:24.679 --> 00:40:28.719
then based on that you work towards that. Maybe yes, okay.

776
00:40:28.440 --> 00:40:31.159
For sure, they all totally they change. They could change

777
00:40:31.159 --> 00:40:34.280
every season. You know, every part of your life that

778
00:40:35.000 --> 00:40:38.239
you know, the health wise, right, like health, if something

779
00:40:38.280 --> 00:40:40.239
happens to your health, that that's going to be the

780
00:40:40.239 --> 00:40:43.159
top value, Like I'm going to do everything to you know,

781
00:40:43.199 --> 00:40:45.559
then I put the family and the other things at

782
00:40:45.599 --> 00:40:48.599
the number two and three or you know. But it's

783
00:40:48.639 --> 00:40:53.400
that awareness that you have because when you make a choice,

784
00:40:53.519 --> 00:40:57.960
especially watching my girls, like making choices with friends, or

785
00:40:58.400 --> 00:41:01.559
you know, being in college and having your independence and

786
00:41:01.599 --> 00:41:03.960
seeing you know, she's going to be making decisions on

787
00:41:04.000 --> 00:41:07.639
her own. But she's so aware and so strong in

788
00:41:07.639 --> 00:41:10.800
her values. It's been an amazing. She's a sophomore this year,

789
00:41:11.199 --> 00:41:14.880
but watching as a freshman her making her choices and

790
00:41:15.239 --> 00:41:17.639
letting her free and letting like you know, you have

791
00:41:17.719 --> 00:41:20.599
to like it was so hard fullieve me, but it

792
00:41:20.679 --> 00:41:23.960
was like, Okay, she's gone. She's only twenty minutes away,

793
00:41:24.039 --> 00:41:26.079
so I'm not like flying this year. So I'm like,

794
00:41:26.199 --> 00:41:30.159
that's a pretty week. But you know when you see

795
00:41:30.760 --> 00:41:34.000
that they have listened and they've you know, you've planted

796
00:41:34.000 --> 00:41:36.960
the seeds, You've shown them how important values are and

797
00:41:37.000 --> 00:41:40.079
where the value stand is, where you make your choices

798
00:41:40.239 --> 00:41:44.679
from the things that happened last year and what she'd

799
00:41:44.719 --> 00:41:47.039
made this city. Oh I can't even tell you. It

800
00:41:47.039 --> 00:41:49.719
could make me cry because it makes you realize, like

801
00:41:50.639 --> 00:41:56.079
what I planted and what I displayed for them, it

802
00:41:56.199 --> 00:42:00.320
all it just like full circle, Like it's amazingful.

803
00:42:01.760 --> 00:42:05.800
Okay, So I think we need an accountability thing here,

804
00:42:05.920 --> 00:42:08.480
oh boy, because my challenge and I love that, my

805
00:42:08.639 --> 00:42:14.639
challenge is I live my life in the past. I

806
00:42:14.679 --> 00:42:17.039
have not been as successful as I want to be

807
00:42:17.280 --> 00:42:20.400
at living in the present and being aware of things

808
00:42:20.400 --> 00:42:22.679
that I'm saying. For example, because I was just about

809
00:42:22.679 --> 00:42:24.920
to do it again, right, Yeah, So what I need

810
00:42:25.480 --> 00:42:27.519
I need you to do care is to call me

811
00:42:27.559 --> 00:42:30.920
out when you hear something like negative or that is

812
00:42:31.039 --> 00:42:33.760
that is creating the reality that we don't want because

813
00:42:33.800 --> 00:42:37.239
it is important to me. But I don't find myself

814
00:42:37.360 --> 00:42:40.079
as present as I would like to be as often

815
00:42:40.119 --> 00:42:41.159
as I would like to be. So I need you

816
00:42:41.239 --> 00:42:41.880
to help me with that.

817
00:42:42.320 --> 00:42:43.840
Okay, okay, I'm on board.

818
00:42:44.079 --> 00:42:45.199
Excellent, thank you.

819
00:42:45.880 --> 00:42:46.800
I put the tech down.

820
00:42:47.639 --> 00:42:50.159
Yes, no doubt, that's exactly That's exactly so because it

821
00:42:50.239 --> 00:42:52.960
is very important. One of my core values is family.

822
00:42:53.400 --> 00:42:55.840
Spending time with family. It's very important to me, not

823
00:42:55.920 --> 00:42:59.760
just family, but people. Connecting on a soul level with

824
00:42:59.760 --> 00:43:01.960
people is very important to me, and the times that

825
00:43:02.000 --> 00:43:04.199
I'm able to do it is amazing.

826
00:43:04.400 --> 00:43:06.159
But I think I want to cut you off for

827
00:43:06.159 --> 00:43:06.519
a second.

828
00:43:06.519 --> 00:43:06.639
Hair.

829
00:43:06.719 --> 00:43:12.199
I think you are subconsciously keeping those are still your

830
00:43:12.559 --> 00:43:15.639
values because when you're working, it's because you want to

831
00:43:15.639 --> 00:43:16.440
support your family.

832
00:43:16.760 --> 00:43:17.039
True.

833
00:43:17.159 --> 00:43:19.760
So it's not that you're just not present. You're figuring

834
00:43:19.760 --> 00:43:21.880
out because you know this economy and jobs are crazy

835
00:43:21.920 --> 00:43:22.760
and all of this stuff.

836
00:43:22.960 --> 00:43:23.320
True.

837
00:43:23.480 --> 00:43:25.800
So I feel like that's I mean, it does take

838
00:43:25.840 --> 00:43:27.280
you away from us in the moment, but I just

839
00:43:27.280 --> 00:43:29.039
want you to give yourself some grace on that one.

840
00:43:29.079 --> 00:43:32.039
Because thank you. I appreciate that. Yeah, you're right, I

841
00:43:32.079 --> 00:43:34.480
think that though there is a happy medium you to find. Oh,

842
00:43:34.519 --> 00:43:37.360
I agree right that when it's time when we're sitting

843
00:43:38.079 --> 00:43:40.920
in the living room watching a movie together or talking

844
00:43:41.239 --> 00:43:44.159
or having we used to have dinner all the time

845
00:43:44.360 --> 00:43:47.280
together and we've fallen out of that. I'd love to

846
00:43:47.280 --> 00:43:49.400
go back to that and things like that. That's want

847
00:43:49.440 --> 00:43:52.440
I want to be more. That's great intentional with stuff

848
00:43:52.440 --> 00:43:54.320
like that. So I need to keep me on the side.

849
00:43:54.360 --> 00:44:03.039
So thank you your invoice. So Ashtabe. Once in a

850
00:44:03.039 --> 00:44:05.000
while we have a great guest like you, we throw

851
00:44:05.039 --> 00:44:07.440
them some curveball questions just to have fun. Are you

852
00:44:07.519 --> 00:44:09.800
open to a couple of things? First case scenario, just

853
00:44:09.840 --> 00:44:11.880
at the mouse, no worries, like don't feel like you're

854
00:44:11.880 --> 00:44:13.039
on the spot, okay.

855
00:44:13.239 --> 00:44:14.840
Kind of fun. You know. I've been on a few

856
00:44:14.880 --> 00:44:18.079
podcasts that do that, and it's fun because you you

857
00:44:18.159 --> 00:44:20.800
get to see your intuition, you get to see that

858
00:44:21.000 --> 00:44:23.440
channeling that you know, like what comes out first, It

859
00:44:23.519 --> 00:44:26.960
just trusting whatever you know. Like that means that that

860
00:44:27.119 --> 00:44:27.960
challenge is fun.

861
00:44:28.360 --> 00:44:30.000
So I have to get to that point because I'm

862
00:44:30.000 --> 00:44:31.679
afraid of what would come out of my mouth.

863
00:44:32.280 --> 00:44:33.920
I'm afraid what would come out of your mouth too.

864
00:44:35.719 --> 00:44:39.079
All right, here's the very first curveball question. Let's say

865
00:44:39.480 --> 00:44:43.800
that your soul had a slogan, what would Ashley Garner's

866
00:44:43.840 --> 00:44:46.039
soul put on a bumper sticker.

867
00:44:46.199 --> 00:44:51.519
Trust the process and embrace your the path, like something

868
00:44:51.559 --> 00:44:55.400
about like just trust you know, trust trust you're on

869
00:44:55.480 --> 00:44:56.199
the right path.

870
00:44:57.719 --> 00:44:59.519
One of my favorite books of all time is a

871
00:44:59.519 --> 00:45:00.760
Surrender Experiment by Make.

872
00:45:00.719 --> 00:45:03.320
Sense Me Too. Contact Richard read that.

873
00:45:03.800 --> 00:45:07.559
I didn't read that book, right, Okay, they listened to it.

874
00:45:07.599 --> 00:45:07.800
We did.

875
00:45:07.840 --> 00:45:10.559
Either way. It's a great book. I devoured that book

876
00:45:10.599 --> 00:45:14.440
and that was really what's about right, trusting and allowing

877
00:45:14.440 --> 00:45:17.440
the process and surrendering. And he the whole time, his

878
00:45:17.480 --> 00:45:21.119
old life, he just like you, following followed the path.

879
00:45:21.199 --> 00:45:26.039
So I aspire to be like you and Michael Singer. Okay,

880
00:45:26.320 --> 00:45:28.760
you walk into a bookstore and you see your own

881
00:45:28.800 --> 00:45:32.079
future self has written a book. What's the title and

882
00:45:32.079 --> 00:45:33.039
what's the first line?

883
00:45:36.119 --> 00:45:41.760
Raising confidence, Raising confident children? The first line is what's

884
00:45:41.800 --> 00:45:43.760
coming to me is they do what you do, not

885
00:45:43.840 --> 00:45:48.440
what you say. Explaining to that first sentence of pulling

886
00:45:48.480 --> 00:45:54.039
people parents in on how important what you who you

887
00:45:54.079 --> 00:45:56.760
are and who you be in front of your children

888
00:45:57.920 --> 00:46:00.280
is that I would like to start that. I do

889
00:46:00.360 --> 00:46:03.119
want to write a book and page and the girls

890
00:46:03.159 --> 00:46:07.079
just started writing a book and Paige is going to

891
00:46:07.119 --> 00:46:11.679
write one on teenage being a teenager with the parents.

892
00:46:11.800 --> 00:46:13.199
She wants me to help her with it, with the

893
00:46:13.280 --> 00:46:17.480
parent's perspective on how she was raised with me. But

894
00:46:18.559 --> 00:46:22.199
I think when parents you don't realize confidence in children.

895
00:46:22.480 --> 00:46:24.079
I know you do because you have a daughter, and

896
00:46:24.760 --> 00:46:27.559
the word confidence is like a dream for you to

897
00:46:27.599 --> 00:46:31.119
have a child child that's confident, Because that word alone

898
00:46:31.239 --> 00:46:33.559
is like if I could just drop my child off

899
00:46:33.599 --> 00:46:35.519
and know that they're confident enough in who they are,

900
00:46:36.400 --> 00:46:39.360
then I don't have that, you know, worry of the

901
00:46:39.400 --> 00:46:41.199
bully or you know, I know they can stand up

902
00:46:41.199 --> 00:46:44.840
for themselves and they have such strong self worth. I

903
00:46:44.840 --> 00:46:49.239
think these days of social media and the pressure that

904
00:46:49.280 --> 00:46:52.679
these children have and the way technology is just it's

905
00:46:52.760 --> 00:46:55.320
like the chat gye. All the things that are happening

906
00:46:55.400 --> 00:46:58.880
right now this time of our life is so transformative.

907
00:46:59.599 --> 00:47:04.079
They need these tools, the confidence of themselves to know

908
00:47:04.159 --> 00:47:07.960
they're exactly where they're supposed to be trusting their intuition,

909
00:47:08.559 --> 00:47:11.800
teaching them intuition, teaching them to follow the breadcrumbs and

910
00:47:11.920 --> 00:47:14.760
take the step and if that, you know, like if

911
00:47:14.760 --> 00:47:18.679
a sport, or taking the viola, if that's pulling you,

912
00:47:18.800 --> 00:47:21.880
and you know, like, then do it because there's something

913
00:47:21.920 --> 00:47:24.760
in that soul, like she's your daughter's probably done the

914
00:47:24.840 --> 00:47:29.039
violin and viola in other lifetimes where it's like she's

915
00:47:29.280 --> 00:47:32.519
recognizing that that's her. It calls her, you know. And

916
00:47:32.599 --> 00:47:34.679
you watch the girls along the way and the things

917
00:47:34.679 --> 00:47:39.039
they chose, the confidence and knowing that they if they're

918
00:47:39.119 --> 00:47:42.800
choosing that it's calling them. Right. So who are we

919
00:47:42.880 --> 00:47:45.760
as parents to say, Nope, I played soccer, so you

920
00:47:45.840 --> 00:47:48.480
better play soccer. And you know, I'm the dad that's

921
00:47:48.519 --> 00:47:50.400
going to be the coach and you're going to have

922
00:47:50.480 --> 00:47:53.440
to be this way in this position, and the kids like, wait,

923
00:47:53.519 --> 00:47:55.159
I just want to go play the piano.

924
00:47:55.920 --> 00:47:59.800
And that's the hardest thing, right to allow them to

925
00:48:00.079 --> 00:48:02.719
be who they are because we have a certain idea

926
00:48:02.840 --> 00:48:05.079
in our minds. When she was a little oh, she's

927
00:48:05.079 --> 00:48:06.719
gonna wear this dress and she's gonna go do it,

928
00:48:06.719 --> 00:48:09.440
and it's gonna do it. And then when suddenly she goes,

929
00:48:10.400 --> 00:48:11.920
I actually prefer to go this way.

930
00:48:12.360 --> 00:48:12.639
M hm.

931
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Oh yeah, she's really into hard rock right now. Oh,

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but she plays classical music on the vilas.

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I'm like, okay, so there's a balanced.

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Well rounded You're so right about having her. I'm sure

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she did it in the past life because she picks

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it up. She can pick up a song by ear

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any songs.

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Instantly if she knows the song well, and she can

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just pick it up and start playing.

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Wow, it's totally she has done that for sure.

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Okay, last one, because I think some of these are

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going to be the same thing. This one's kind of close.

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But if your higher self could text you right now,

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what do you think the message would say?

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Yeah, Trust does have to be picking up the breadcrumbs.

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Never question anything. Always know that you know that you

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are right where you're supposed to be and everything is

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for you, even if that's the moment you are telling

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you know, like oh, I you know questioning it, you know,

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like the y in the road right like I go

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this way or this way? You know, trust that whatever

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your intuition is saying, oh, it's if it's not the

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right thing, you're going to learn something and you're going

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to veer back to the left side. But it's all

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it's part of this like little self, you know, journey

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that we wanted to come to Earth because Earth school

957
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is the hardest school and we're going to learn the

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most and we're only here for this, you know, barely

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any time. And I know time is not even it's

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doesn't even exist. But when you look at life like

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that and you can say, you know, I can just

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trust knowing that I know in my soul that is

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leading me to my magic and to look at life

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as every day what magic. I mean that the girls

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would have to come home every day and tell me

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their magic moment. My students still text me their magic moments.

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But it's wonderful. It's teaching them. It could be you know,

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I saw a rainbow or I went to McDonald on whatever,

969
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you know, it doesn't matter. But it's them realizing like

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there's so much magic. There's like that raises your vibration

971
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right to like to look around and say, oh my gosh,

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I saw hummingbird today, mom, And oh mom, I got

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a butterfly. And I put an intention out there that

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I was going to see a butterfly. The girls do

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that still to this day. It's just their muscle, you know.

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Yeah, gosh, all right, I love everything about that. Your

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podcast is called Uncover Your Magic, and you can find

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it everywhere that podcasts are served. If someone wanted to

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reach out to you to work with you, whether with

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their kids or themselves, to bring magic back into their lives,

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what's the best way for someone to reach out?

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Email My name ashleygo Nar at gmail dot com, Instagram

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and Facebook are all Ashley Gonner.

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They can DM me or perfect all right.

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And we're also going to add a link to your

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website on our show notes so someone can and visit that.

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If you just go to Skepticmandeposition dot com, you can

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go to her episode page and you'll see those links

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laid in and directly, so it's easy for you to

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connect with that.

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Ashley. It's just a click away.

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Ashley, thank you such a beautiful conversation. Thank you so

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much for coming and reminding us of the importance of

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noticing the magic moments, because holy smokes, do we all

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need that in a very big way the days.

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Yes, for sure. I loved it so much. It's so

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fun being on this side of the interview.

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So well, it's been a pleasure. We'll see you again

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really soon, I'm sure.

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Okay, yeah, see you will. Thank you, thank you, and a.

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Huge thank you to you. We hope you've enjoyed this

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conversation as much as we have. If you did, and

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we can help raise the vibration of the planet together. Well,

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that's all for now. We will see you on the

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next episode of The Skeptic Better Physicians. Until then, take care,
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Ashley Gonor

Mindset coach, speaker, podcast host, and founder of the Raising Confidence movement

A mindset coach, speaker, podcast host, and founder of the Raising Confidence movement, Ashley’s dedicated to empowering the next generation to believe they can be, do, or have anything they set their minds to.

Originally from Seattle, Washington, Ashley moved to San Diego to attend San Diego State University, where she earned a degree in Business. Her path has been a vibrant blend of entrepreneurship, personal growth, and motherhood. From co-founding a marine upholstery business with her sister to managing her father’s innovative equipment company, Ashley learned early on how to lead with vision and resilience.

After a transformative period of self-discovery, she followed her heart toward a life of deeper purpose – opening a successful day spa, investing in real estate, and ultimately discovering her true calling: guiding children, teens, and parents to unlock their inner magic through mindset work.

As the host of the popular podcast Uncover Your Magic, Ashley shares empowering conversations that encourage others to live with intention, joy, and a belief in infinite possibilities. She teaches growth mindset tools in local San Diego schools and created her signature online course, Raising Confidence, which equips teens with the tools to build emotional resilience and self-worth.

A proud mother of two confident daughters, Ashley is living proof that with love, intention, and a belief in the magic within, anything is possible.