What do you actually do with grief, and does it ever really end? Most of us were never taught to feel it, just to survive it. Deborah Hanlon, a medium who has sat with grief for 25 years, reframes the whole thing: grief isn’t something to get over, it’s the most transformative energy a human being can experience…and it’s not just for death.
Moments and takeaways:
Grief is not reserved for death. Every loss counts; the life you thought you’d have, the relationship that didn’t work, the career that fell apart. Deborah says a death just pops them all open at once, like a room full of mousetraps hitting at the same time.
The deceased don’t experience death. We do. Those who have crossed over feel more connected than ever, not less. The grief, the disconnection, the loss — that belongs entirely to the living.
There are no universal signs. Cardinals, dimes, feathers — those work only if they feel true to you. Deborah says chasing someone else’s signs actually dismantles your ability to build your own private language with the person you lost.
Our skeptic’s take:
Karen got very quiet when Deborah read the quote — “When you can’t look on the bright side, I will sit with you in the dark” — and Will admitted the timing of this conversation hit closer to home than either of them expected.
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