Service to Others

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Absolutely. You know, we are
very selfish world right now. We're self

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first about resources, we're selfish about
love to each other. We're selfish in

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so many different ways. And that's
the trouble. The problem is we are

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being very selfish and it is there
is that fine line that you have to

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walk between self care and selfishness.
So, yes, you have to you

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have to practice self hair care because
you know, like on the airplane when

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they say put the oxygen mask on
yourself first before you help someone. You

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can't help anybody if you're in bad
shape. But there is that line where

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it's self care, Okay, I'm
fine, I'm healthy now I can help

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others or are you just going beyond
because you know well I like getting those

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massages, you know, I like
having me time all the time. I

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mean, once it comes to the
point where you're neglecting others, like actively

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neglecting for self indulgence as opposed to
self care, then there's the problem.

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Yeah. I think that it goes
without saying, but the more that you

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were of service to others, the
more that the universe is going to get

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it back to you. So the
act of loving yourself to the point where

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you can give to others and giving
of yourself unselfishly. After you have filled

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your cup, that act of doing
that is the act that gives everything back

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to you. Your wishes are fulfilled. The show, for example, it's

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never been about making a lot of
money or anything like that. On the

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show. It's always been about We
started, it was about finding out who

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I was and trying to get myself
to a place where I'd be happy with

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myself. But then there was a
point in time where we almost closed the

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show down because it was taking a
lot of time I do everything myself,

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and we were about to close it
down, and Karen stumbled on these pages

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and pages of reviews that we didn't
even realize were there. And through the

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course of reading these reviews, they
were all five star except for two which

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were four star. But they were
talking the paragraphs and paragraphs of how much

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the show had changed their life and
how much it was helping them and making

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them feel normal and all that kind
of stuff. The Karen just turned to

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me and she says, can't if
you're helping one person in this world,

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you can't shut this show down.
So then it became more about doing the

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show. We're still doing self journey, self exploration, but we're doing it

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for others. If it's able to
help other people, then that's what we

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want to do. We want to
help raise the vibrations of other folks.

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And the minute we became of service
to others, the show was one that

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we're doing it for others, Suddenly
it blew up. The downloads were growing

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like crazy, and now the guests
are coming to us. It's incredible.

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The less we are about self service, the better the show does. So

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that's a perfect example of how that
works. And I do want to make

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one comment about, you know,
being of service to others because people think,

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well, you know, I don't
have time to volunteer and life is

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busy, and that's very true.
People are very very busy. But serving

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others can be something as simple as
having patience and having tolerance. I read

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the Art of Happiness by the Dalai
Lama, and this little thing that changed

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my life. And it's so it's
not like this incredible god. You know,

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I don't know what he said basically
was in essential. It was essentially,

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don't if someone cuts you off,
or if someone's rude to you one

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day, don't retaliate because you don't
know what they're going through. May maybe

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they cut you off in traffic because
their sons in the hospital and they're trying

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to get to him, or maybe
they were rude to you at the store

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because they're you know, they just
lost their job. You just never know.

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So just taking a moment when someone
acts out to think about, well,

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maybe something's really going on, instead
of responding angrily, even that is

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an act of service. You know, you're letting them have their moment.

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You know, maybe they are just
a jerk. That does happen, you

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know, but so often there's a
reason behind that, and having that patience

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and that calmness that in itself is
a little tiny act of service, and

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those little tiny acts, you know, populated can create something huge.