There are millions of stories about the power of surrender. But our story came alive when we were planning our wedding.
Listen how, when everything was seemingly aginst us, the Universe showed how letting go and trusting that it would provide....did!...
There are millions of stories about the power of surrender. But our story came alive when we were planning our wedding.
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Karen, you know what we haven't
ever talked about with the audience. Well,
2
00:00:07.799 --> 00:00:10.800
there's a lot, you know what. You're right, Let me rephrase
3
00:00:10.839 --> 00:00:15.679
that. There's one story in particular
that we tell a lot to our friends
4
00:00:16.160 --> 00:00:18.800
that we've not shared with our friends
on the other side of this microphone.
5
00:00:19.280 --> 00:00:21.640
Okay, which one is that?
The day of our wedding? Oh?
6
00:00:21.719 --> 00:00:27.320
Yes, So do you remember when
you know what? I'm going to let
7
00:00:27.320 --> 00:00:29.559
you tell the story because you tell
it so well, So Karen, take
8
00:00:29.600 --> 00:00:32.280
it away. Well, I don't
know if the real story is the day
9
00:00:32.280 --> 00:00:34.479
of the wedding. I think it's
everything leading up to the wedding. It's
10
00:00:34.479 --> 00:00:37.920
actually the entire thing. It's all
a great story and really important in this
11
00:00:38.000 --> 00:00:41.920
context. Well, so how far
back do you want to go? Well,
12
00:00:42.039 --> 00:00:45.439
let's just start with when we're looking
for the site. Okay, Well
13
00:00:45.439 --> 00:00:51.560
that's easy enough. So we meaning. I love the fall colors and the
14
00:00:51.640 --> 00:00:55.600
leaves, and it's something growing up
in Florida that I have not really experienced
15
00:00:55.679 --> 00:00:58.439
a lot. So the few times
I've seen it have blown me away.
16
00:00:58.719 --> 00:01:02.479
And so for our wedding, I
wanted to be amidst that beauty. So
17
00:01:02.520 --> 00:01:06.359
I wanted to go somewhere in the
fall and be outside and have these beautiful
18
00:01:06.400 --> 00:01:10.040
colors. So we decided to go
to North Carolina and start looking at different
19
00:01:10.079 --> 00:01:15.079
locations. Well, we saw quite
a few different locations, and all of
20
00:01:15.120 --> 00:01:19.519
them none of them were what we
were hoping for. A lot of farmhouses
21
00:01:19.519 --> 00:01:22.480
and pumpkins. Yes, a lot
of people wanted to do jack o lanterns,
22
00:01:22.560 --> 00:01:23.799
and I mean not that there's anything
wrong with that, but it's just
23
00:01:23.959 --> 00:01:27.280
not what we wanted. Right,
we should mention we're looking to get married
24
00:01:27.519 --> 00:01:36.159
relatively quickly, probably sometime in November. It was October October. We had
25
00:01:36.560 --> 00:01:41.879
a six week engagement and no,
I wasn't pregnant. We just were really
26
00:01:41.920 --> 00:01:45.719
excited to start our lives together and
we didn't really feel the need to delay.
27
00:01:45.799 --> 00:01:49.560
We didn't want to have a huge
wedding so anyway, so we started
28
00:01:49.599 --> 00:01:53.879
looking and found all these lovely people
with very different styles than ours. We
29
00:01:53.920 --> 00:01:59.120
wanted something beautiful and elegant and simple
and just lovely, and so we had
30
00:01:59.120 --> 00:02:04.319
pretty much given up hope, at
least I think I had. And we
31
00:02:04.439 --> 00:02:07.599
decided to go to Asheville because it's
a beautiful city. Will had never been
32
00:02:07.639 --> 00:02:10.599
there, and we wanted to go
check it out, and what were your
33
00:02:10.639 --> 00:02:14.479
impressions of ash Oh, my gosh, it's an amazing city. It's a
34
00:02:14.479 --> 00:02:17.319
tiny little city that feels so much
larger than it really is. It it's
35
00:02:17.319 --> 00:02:22.199
beautiful, it's very artistic, a
lot of great energy there, really great
36
00:02:22.280 --> 00:02:23.919
energy. Well, so we got
there just to check out the town and
37
00:02:24.000 --> 00:02:27.400
kind of give up and make the
rest of the trip about us having a
38
00:02:27.400 --> 00:02:30.680
great weekend. And we were walking
through the downtown area in the evening and
39
00:02:30.919 --> 00:02:34.759
just kind of looking at the inside
the shops and you know, the windows,
40
00:02:34.759 --> 00:02:36.840
most of them are closed, but
we saw one with some lights on
41
00:02:36.879 --> 00:02:38.919
and I look in and I see
a bride walking across the room and the
42
00:02:39.039 --> 00:02:42.520
room is all lit up and decorated, and I'm like, ah, well,
43
00:02:43.080 --> 00:02:46.039
there's a bride. Something to do
with weddings, what is this?
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People get married in Asheville. So
then we saw a sign on the kind
45
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of the bottom of the door that
said, you know, if you're interested
46
00:02:51.960 --> 00:02:54.360
in booking the venue, here's the
number. So the next day, which
47
00:02:54.400 --> 00:02:58.759
was I think a Sunday, which
of course everything is closed, we call
48
00:02:59.479 --> 00:03:05.439
and surprisingly enough we get an answer, and it was the sweetest lady Egyptian
49
00:03:05.520 --> 00:03:08.400
lady. Do you remember her?
I do, our very godmother, very
50
00:03:08.400 --> 00:03:12.360
godmother. Yes. So she agreed
to meet with us in like an hour,
51
00:03:13.039 --> 00:03:15.800
and so we went to meet with
her and we sat down and it's
52
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inside this really neat. It's a
room that's in an old, old building
53
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with exposed brick walls and wooden floors
and high ceilings, and it just was
54
00:03:23.639 --> 00:03:27.159
beautiful. And she's like, oh, yes, you can have your celebration
55
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here. You know, I'll have
to figure out a place for your ceremony.
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But when are you looking to get
married? And we're like, oh,
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we'd like to do it in October. And she's like, oh,
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that's fantastic that it had done.
She puts down October. What was the
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00:03:37.479 --> 00:03:39.479
year. Well, she starts looking
at her date book. Yeah, and
60
00:03:39.520 --> 00:03:44.719
she's looking and we realized it was
a year away oct twenty, two thousand
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and nine. Yeah. We said, no, no, it's two thousand
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and eight, and she laughing,
and six weeks away and closed the date
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book. Well, apparently we learned
that Ashville is the second most sought after
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a wedding destination in the country.
So I said, all right, we'll
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keep looking and we enjoyed the rest
of our day in Asheville and went on
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our married way home to Florida.
Well, within a week, we get
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a phone call from her and she
says, well, how would you guys
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feel about getting married on a Sunday? Like, I'm good with Sunday.
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Sunday's okay with me. It's good
for good enough for the Lord, it's
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good enough for us exactly. So
we're like, she said, well,
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we just got a cancelation and my
venue is open on a Sunday for your
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reception. So I don't know if
we can find caterer's photographers. I don't
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know where you're going to have your
wedding, but you can have the after
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party here. But let me help
you. Look. So, little by
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little, the phone calls start coming
in from her and she has found a
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photographer that had a cancelation, musicians
that had a cancelation. Everything. It
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was the craziest thing. All these
people had a cancelation on that day and
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they were her preferred vendors. Yes, and then she found us the most
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beautiful location, the most perfect location. Karen wanted to be married outside with
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the leaves changing, and I started
to take over the story over. But
81
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then she came back to us with
a mansion that happened to have a small
82
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glen, outdoor glen with you have
to go down these little steps, stone
83
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like stone steps, and it's kind
of deep down. Yeah, I was
84
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a steep stone steps leading down into
this gorgeous glen with a wedding altar,
85
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a beautiful stone, very rustic looking, covered by trees and plants. It
86
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was like a fairy wedding. And
it just so happened that they had a
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cancelation. Surprise, surprise, So
it seems like all the stars were aligning.
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Yeah, they were, absolutely.
And then, of course, as
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it is in North Carolina in October, it is brutally cold. But the
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days leading up to the wedding,
oh, they were miserable. I went
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up with my mother and we thought, oh, we're going to have a
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nice spa day and we're going to
do this and just enjoy. And everything
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wrong happened. I couldn't get my
dress pressed. I found a company to
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do it, but then they like
tore it up, and well, we
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were able to fix it, but
it was raining every single day. We
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lost our marriage license, and then
I had a panic attack at the civil
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ceremony. That's a whole other story, a story for another day. Yea,
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the day of so the day before
the wedding it was storming all day.
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The day of the wedding it was
beautiful. It got up to seventy
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degrees, gorgeous sunny day. The
day after the wedding it snowed, so
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even the bad weather got canceled for
our wedding. It's amazing how things lined
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up. Everything lined up, including
the weather. Yep. And if that's
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not meant to be, I don't
know what else. You know, what
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more of a sign could there be? Absolutely so, I would say probably
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the moral of that story is if
something you just said it, if it's
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something, is meant to be,
then the universe will align itself. But
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I think the best thing was we
just received it as it was coming,
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in gratitude. We didn't force it, We weren't angry, we didn't push
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things, we didn't make people angry. We just allowed it. We surrendered
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and we let it happen. And
that was a beautiful thing. It sure was
1
00:00:03.759 --> 00:00:07.799
Karen, you know what we haven't
ever talked about with the audience. Well,
2
00:00:07.799 --> 00:00:10.800
there's a lot, you know what. You're right, Let me rephrase
3
00:00:10.839 --> 00:00:15.679
that. There's one story in particular
that we tell a lot to our friends
4
00:00:16.160 --> 00:00:18.800
that we've not shared with our friends
on the other side of this microphone.
5
00:00:19.280 --> 00:00:21.640
Okay, which one is that?
The day of our wedding? Oh?
6
00:00:21.719 --> 00:00:27.320
Yes, So do you remember when
you know what? I'm going to let
7
00:00:27.320 --> 00:00:29.559
you tell the story because you tell
it so well, So Karen, take
8
00:00:29.600 --> 00:00:32.280
it away. Well, I don't
know if the real story is the day
9
00:00:32.280 --> 00:00:34.479
of the wedding. I think it's
everything leading up to the wedding. It's
10
00:00:34.479 --> 00:00:37.920
actually the entire thing. It's all
a great story and really important in this
11
00:00:38.000 --> 00:00:41.920
context. Well, so how far
back do you want to go? Well,
12
00:00:42.039 --> 00:00:45.439
let's just start with when we're looking
for the site. Okay, Well
13
00:00:45.439 --> 00:00:51.560
that's easy enough. So we meaning. I love the fall colors and the
14
00:00:51.640 --> 00:00:55.600
leaves, and it's something growing up
in Florida that I have not really experienced
15
00:00:55.679 --> 00:00:58.439
a lot. So the few times
I've seen it have blown me away.
16
00:00:58.719 --> 00:01:02.479
And so for our wedding, I
wanted to be amidst that beauty. So
17
00:01:02.520 --> 00:01:06.359
I wanted to go somewhere in the
fall and be outside and have these beautiful
18
00:01:06.400 --> 00:01:10.040
colors. So we decided to go
to North Carolina and start looking at different
19
00:01:10.079 --> 00:01:15.079
locations. Well, we saw quite
a few different locations, and all of
20
00:01:15.120 --> 00:01:19.519
them none of them were what we
were hoping for. A lot of farmhouses
21
00:01:19.519 --> 00:01:22.480
and pumpkins. Yes, a lot
of people wanted to do jack o lanterns,
22
00:01:22.560 --> 00:01:23.799
and I mean not that there's anything
wrong with that, but it's just
23
00:01:23.959 --> 00:01:27.280
not what we wanted. Right,
we should mention we're looking to get married
24
00:01:27.519 --> 00:01:36.159
relatively quickly, probably sometime in November. It was October October. We had
25
00:01:36.560 --> 00:01:41.879
a six week engagement and no,
I wasn't pregnant. We just were really
26
00:01:41.920 --> 00:01:45.719
excited to start our lives together and
we didn't really feel the need to delay.
27
00:01:45.799 --> 00:01:49.560
We didn't want to have a huge
wedding so anyway, so we started
28
00:01:49.599 --> 00:01:53.879
looking and found all these lovely people
with very different styles than ours. We
29
00:01:53.920 --> 00:01:59.120
wanted something beautiful and elegant and simple
and just lovely, and so we had
30
00:01:59.120 --> 00:02:04.319
pretty much given up hope, at
least I think I had. And we
31
00:02:04.439 --> 00:02:07.599
decided to go to Asheville because it's
a beautiful city. Will had never been
32
00:02:07.639 --> 00:02:10.599
there, and we wanted to go
check it out, and what were your
33
00:02:10.639 --> 00:02:14.479
impressions of ash Oh, my gosh, it's an amazing city. It's a
34
00:02:14.479 --> 00:02:17.319
tiny little city that feels so much
larger than it really is. It it's
35
00:02:17.319 --> 00:02:22.199
beautiful, it's very artistic, a
lot of great energy there, really great
36
00:02:22.280 --> 00:02:23.919
energy. Well, so we got
there just to check out the town and
37
00:02:24.000 --> 00:02:27.400
kind of give up and make the
rest of the trip about us having a
38
00:02:27.400 --> 00:02:30.680
great weekend. And we were walking
through the downtown area in the evening and
39
00:02:30.919 --> 00:02:34.759
just kind of looking at the inside
the shops and you know, the windows,
40
00:02:34.759 --> 00:02:36.840
most of them are closed, but
we saw one with some lights on
41
00:02:36.879 --> 00:02:38.919
and I look in and I see
a bride walking across the room and the
42
00:02:39.039 --> 00:02:42.520
room is all lit up and decorated, and I'm like, ah, well,
43
00:02:43.080 --> 00:02:46.039
there's a bride. Something to do
with weddings, what is this?
44
00:02:46.120 --> 00:02:50.199
People get married in Asheville. So
then we saw a sign on the kind
45
00:02:50.199 --> 00:02:51.960
of the bottom of the door that
said, you know, if you're interested
46
00:02:51.960 --> 00:02:54.360
in booking the venue, here's the
number. So the next day, which
47
00:02:54.400 --> 00:02:58.759
was I think a Sunday, which
of course everything is closed, we call
48
00:02:59.479 --> 00:03:05.439
and surprisingly enough we get an answer, and it was the sweetest lady Egyptian
49
00:03:05.520 --> 00:03:08.400
lady. Do you remember her?
I do, our very godmother, very
50
00:03:08.400 --> 00:03:12.360
godmother. Yes. So she agreed
to meet with us in like an hour,
51
00:03:13.039 --> 00:03:15.800
and so we went to meet with
her and we sat down and it's
52
00:03:15.840 --> 00:03:20.039
inside this really neat. It's a
room that's in an old, old building
53
00:03:20.039 --> 00:03:23.599
with exposed brick walls and wooden floors
and high ceilings, and it just was
54
00:03:23.639 --> 00:03:27.159
beautiful. And she's like, oh, yes, you can have your celebration
55
00:03:27.240 --> 00:03:29.319
here. You know, I'll have
to figure out a place for your ceremony.
56
00:03:29.360 --> 00:03:30.400
But when are you looking to get
married? And we're like, oh,
57
00:03:30.439 --> 00:03:32.159
we'd like to do it in October. And she's like, oh,
58
00:03:32.199 --> 00:03:37.400
that's fantastic that it had done.
She puts down October. What was the
59
00:03:37.479 --> 00:03:39.479
year. Well, she starts looking
at her date book. Yeah, and
60
00:03:39.520 --> 00:03:44.719
she's looking and we realized it was
a year away oct twenty, two thousand
61
00:03:44.719 --> 00:03:46.919
and nine. Yeah. We said, no, no, it's two thousand
62
00:03:46.879 --> 00:03:53.000
and eight, and she laughing,
and six weeks away and closed the date
63
00:03:53.000 --> 00:03:57.840
book. Well, apparently we learned
that Ashville is the second most sought after
64
00:03:58.000 --> 00:04:00.560
a wedding destination in the country.
So I said, all right, we'll
65
00:04:00.639 --> 00:04:03.159
keep looking and we enjoyed the rest
of our day in Asheville and went on
66
00:04:03.199 --> 00:04:08.039
our married way home to Florida.
Well, within a week, we get
67
00:04:08.039 --> 00:04:10.879
a phone call from her and she
says, well, how would you guys
68
00:04:10.960 --> 00:04:14.080
feel about getting married on a Sunday? Like, I'm good with Sunday.
69
00:04:14.120 --> 00:04:15.800
Sunday's okay with me. It's good
for good enough for the Lord, it's
70
00:04:15.800 --> 00:04:20.279
good enough for us exactly. So
we're like, she said, well,
71
00:04:20.279 --> 00:04:24.560
we just got a cancelation and my
venue is open on a Sunday for your
72
00:04:24.560 --> 00:04:27.839
reception. So I don't know if
we can find caterer's photographers. I don't
73
00:04:27.839 --> 00:04:30.319
know where you're going to have your
wedding, but you can have the after
74
00:04:30.399 --> 00:04:32.800
party here. But let me help
you. Look. So, little by
75
00:04:32.879 --> 00:04:36.279
little, the phone calls start coming
in from her and she has found a
76
00:04:36.319 --> 00:04:42.879
photographer that had a cancelation, musicians
that had a cancelation. Everything. It
77
00:04:43.000 --> 00:04:46.079
was the craziest thing. All these
people had a cancelation on that day and
78
00:04:46.120 --> 00:04:49.360
they were her preferred vendors. Yes, and then she found us the most
79
00:04:49.600 --> 00:04:57.360
beautiful location, the most perfect location. Karen wanted to be married outside with
80
00:04:57.399 --> 00:05:00.879
the leaves changing, and I started
to take over the story over. But
81
00:05:00.920 --> 00:05:09.120
then she came back to us with
a mansion that happened to have a small
82
00:05:09.120 --> 00:05:13.399
glen, outdoor glen with you have
to go down these little steps, stone
83
00:05:13.439 --> 00:05:15.639
like stone steps, and it's kind
of deep down. Yeah, I was
84
00:05:15.680 --> 00:05:21.959
a steep stone steps leading down into
this gorgeous glen with a wedding altar,
85
00:05:23.199 --> 00:05:27.279
a beautiful stone, very rustic looking, covered by trees and plants. It
86
00:05:27.319 --> 00:05:30.920
was like a fairy wedding. And
it just so happened that they had a
87
00:05:30.079 --> 00:05:34.120
cancelation. Surprise, surprise, So
it seems like all the stars were aligning.
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Yeah, they were, absolutely.
And then, of course, as
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it is in North Carolina in October, it is brutally cold. But the
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days leading up to the wedding,
oh, they were miserable. I went
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up with my mother and we thought, oh, we're going to have a
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nice spa day and we're going to
do this and just enjoy. And everything
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wrong happened. I couldn't get my
dress pressed. I found a company to
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do it, but then they like
tore it up, and well, we
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were able to fix it, but
it was raining every single day. We
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lost our marriage license, and then
I had a panic attack at the civil
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ceremony. That's a whole other story, a story for another day. Yea,
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the day of so the day before
the wedding it was storming all day.
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The day of the wedding it was
beautiful. It got up to seventy
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degrees, gorgeous sunny day. The
day after the wedding it snowed, so
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even the bad weather got canceled for
our wedding. It's amazing how things lined
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up. Everything lined up, including
the weather. Yep. And if that's
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not meant to be, I don't
know what else. You know, what
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more of a sign could there be? Absolutely so, I would say probably
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the moral of that story is if
something you just said it, if it's
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something, is meant to be,
then the universe will align itself. But
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I think the best thing was we
just received it as it was coming,
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in gratitude. We didn't force it, We weren't angry, we didn't push
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things, we didn't make people angry. We just allowed it. We surrendered
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and we let it happen. And
that was a beautiful thing. It sure was
